Mary, a 27 year old, stay at home mother from New Brunswick, Canada suffered from
immense guilt when her baby couldn’t seem to stop crying for the first seven
months. “I felt very guilty when he cried because I myself cried excessively
when I was pregnant. I was stressed out a lot so I somehow thought that his colic
was my fault and I joined right in with him and cried most of the time. I got
quite flustered, but thank God I had great family support with many helping hands.
If I had gone though this alone I’m sure I would have had an emotional breakdown.”
Mention the word ‘colic’ to any mother and watch their faces go
stark white with terror.
Colic is the medical term doctors have come up with to explain the unending
shrieking some babies exhibit usually in the first two weeks of life. The word
was probably invented to sooth mothers who were at the end of their ropes wondering
why their babies couldn’t stop crying, no matter what they did.
Two weeks sounds like forever when dealing with a crying baby, but some colic
cases can last as long as four months or even longer. You can easily spot these
cases by looking into the bloodshot eyes of the mother.
Teresa, a 36 year old sales manager from Texas has a son Max, who was not so
affectionately given the nickname ‘Dammit-Max’ for the first three
years of his life because that was how long his colic lasted. “That kid
hated me from the time he shot out of me. Have you ever seen the Family Guy?
If you have, think Stewie and his love/hate relationship for Lois. I have four
children and he by far was my biggest challenge as an infant. He screamed, what
can only be described as a pterodactyl screech for years...YEARS, hello! Now
that he can communicate, he's the most delightful little boy.”
This offers the possibility that what we have here may be a failure to communicate.
As babies have not yet developed verbal skills, crying is the only way they
have of getting their needs across and it’s left to the poor, bedraggled
mother to try and play guessing games amid the chaotic shrieking.
Stacey, a 37 year old office manager from Muskego, Wisconsin had it blissfully
easy by comparison. Her baby boy cried on a schedule. “Every night from
about 7:00pm until about 8:30pm from birth until he was about 3 months old.
When I asked my paediatrician about it she said as long as he was fed, burped
and changed that there was nothing to do but let him cry it out. It wouldn't
hurt him. I asked about this at his 1 month check up and she said he should
stop around 3 months and that is exactly what happened.”
So once the problem has been given a name, the mother, who is now assured that
she is not an incompetent boob, immediately switches from ‘what is it?,’
to ‘how to I get it to STOP?’
The answer to that is no more reassuring than knowing the cause of it. Because
we’re all such varied personalities, even in infancy, there is no way
to know what will work for your baby specifically, especially if no one can
really agree on what causes colic in the first place. Is it gas? Is it muscle
cramps? Is your baby depressed?
It’s really a case of throwing a bunch of techniques at the wall (in
this case the wall being your baby) and seeing what sticks.
Eliminating Cows Milk
For some babies, the protein in cow’s milk causes an allergic reaction
that may be the cause for your infant’s discomfort so switching to a different
formula (your doctor can suggest some good ones to try) can ease the colic.
Swaddling Your Baby In A Blanket
Wrapping your baby tightly, using the ‘burrito technique’ is often
very helpful for easing your baby’s crying as it gives them the feeling
of warmth and security. Lie your baby down on the blanket with his arms at his
sides Pull the left side of the blanket over the baby and tuck it into his side.
Pull the bottom of the blanket up next. Finally, pull the right side of the
blanket over your baby and tuck it in to the opposite side.
Vacuuming
Yes, it’s widely considered an old wives tale, but many mothers swear
by it. Running the vacuum while your baby cries seems to have a soothing affect
on him. Most doctors would go even further and suggest any type of ‘white
noise’ will do. Monotonous classical music, the sound of the dishwasher,
etc. The reason for this is that while babies are in the uterus they are surrounded
by the loud sounds of blood rushing through the body and the other various stimuli
of the mother’s body at work. This white noise becomes familiar and soothing
to the baby so that the absence of it can cause the baby to become irritated
or even frightened.
Knowing that the problem is so widespread can hopefully help mothers alleviate
much of the guilt in not being able to immediately soothe their infants.
The main thing for mothers to remember is that whether
your baby’s excessive crying lasts two weeks or
three years, there is a lot of help out there and this
too indeed, shall pass.
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