Myth
Number One: You should have sex on day 14 of your cycle if
you want to get pregnant.
You have
probably heard that most women ovulate on day 14 of their
cycle. This is simply not true. It is based on the calendar
method of predicting ovulation. If you have a perfect 28 day
cycle, where your luteal
phase (the second half of your cycle) is exactly
14 days long, you would likely ovulate around day 14. Most
women, however, do not have perfect cycles and even the women
who do have regular cycles, usually do not ovulate at exactly
the same time each month.
Myth
Number Two: You should have sex 24-72 hours after you ovulate.
There is some confusion
over when to have sex if you are trying to get pregnant. Yes,
it is true that you want to time intercourse very close to
ovulation. Where many couples go wrong, is they only have
sex when they think they are ovulating or they have sex after
they ovulate. There are two problems with this strategy, the
first is that once you ovulate your egg will only survive
for about 12-24 hours (not 72). If you do not start having
intercourse until the day you ovulate you may be only giving
yourself a 12 hour opportunity to get pregnant. Sperm can
live for up to five days so having sex before (not after)
ovulation is very important. Ideally you want to have intercourse
one or two days before you ovulate.
The other
problem with this strategy is that many women can not tell
when they are ovulating. If you are not sure
when you are ovulating or if you miscalculate your ovulation
day, you could be having sex on all the wrong days. Having
sex regularly three times a week is one of the best ways to
be sure you are having sex at the right time.
Myth
Number Three: You are most fertile the day your temperature
rises on your bbt chart
BBT
Charting is a great way to learn about your cycle
and to determine if you are ovulating; however, it is not
the best way to predict ovulation. By the time you see your
temperature rise on your bbt chart you have already ovulated.
Even though temperature charting isn’t very helpful
for predicting ovulation, it is useful for confirming ovulation.
It can also be useful for detecting fertility problems such
as anovulatory cycles or luteal phase defects.
Myth
Number Four: Infertility is not treatable or too expensive
to treat.
A lot
of couples mistakenly believe that they are infertile. Before
consulting a doctor, they make assumptions that there isn’t
anything that can be done about it or if they were to see
a doctor it would be incredibly expensive to threat. This
misconception can keep many couples from seeking medical advice
for problems that could easily be treated. If you have not
gotten pregnant after a year of trying to get pregnant you
should seek medical advice. If you have irregular menstrual
cycles or are having anovulatory bbt charts you should consult
a doctor. Although some infertility treatments are costly,
many are not and many can be covered by health insurance.
Myth
Number Five: A doctor won’t see you for treatment until
you have been trying for one year.
Not true. Some
doctors may not offer infertility treatments such as fertility
medications until you have been trying for one year, but it
is a good idea to see a doctor if you are trying to conceive.
Plan to have a gynecological check up as soon as or before
you plan to start trying. He or she can make sure that you
are in good health, screen for any obvious issues, and give
you some guidelines for trying to get pregnant. You may want
to start taking prenatal vitamins before you start trying.
Myth
Number Six: You should have sex as many times as you can on
the day you think you are ovulating.
Well this won’t
really hurt anything but even if you have sex all day long
on the day you think you are ovulating you may not get pregnant.
Each cycle you have about a 20-30% chance of getting pregnant.
One of the biggest mistakes couples make is trying to cram
all their love making into the one day they think is best
to try to conceive. Well what if this is not the right day?
Some women have a difficult time predicting ovulation so one
of the best things you can do is to have sex regularly three
to four times a week.
Myth
Number Seven: Generally women are the ones that have fertility
problems. Men rarely have problems.
For some
reason women tend to think that only men that abuse drugs
or are impotent have fertility problems. This is not true.
Infertility is a problem that affects both men
and women equally, with about 40% of infertility being linked
to male factors, 40% to female, and 20% to a combination of
male and female factors.