Rather than swimming upstream and fighting the urge to slow down, I’ve decided to go with the summertime flow. I hope that you and your children decide to do the same and enjoy a magical summer that includes carefree time to explore, dream and play. Soon enough, we’ll once again be asking ourselves, “Where did the summer go?” Before fall arrives and back to school activities take precedence, be sure to enjoy the magical days of summer.

Unexpected, delightful events are part of the fun and wonder of the summer. But if our children’s days are overscheduled, they’re likely to miss these unexpected delights—and so will we, as we frenetically drive from one activity to the next. Even though your intentions may be good, avoid being overzealous about providing structured activities for your children.

Be sure not to fill all your children’s time with lessons, summer camp, team sports, or other organized events

By eliminating the summer activities that are not particularly enjoyable or important to your child, you are likely to find the time and space to enjoy the surprises of the day as they arise. Even the smallest events can be exciting to children, and it’s a wonderful gift to be able to see the world through their eyes. If you unexpectedly see a beautiful butterfly, follow it with your child. If you make a wrong turn while driving, see where it takes you. If your son or daughter wants to have a last-minute lemonade stand, go for it. Enjoy the effortless flow of summertime.

Of course if you have children and work outside the home—there’s no denying that your life is incredibly busy. Still, you may find that by cutting back on some of your family’s extracurricular activities, you can create a more relaxed atmosphere. For example, one planned event a weekend may be great, but three or four may leave everyone in the family feeling rushed and frantic.

Each and everyday this summer, leave some time for your children to do whatever they want—even if it appears that they are choosing to do nothing at all.

Don’t think of it as wasted time. Children are naturally creative and you will be providing them with the necessary time and space to use this natural ability to be resourceful, self-sufficient and independent.

At first, when you step back from your full time role as the summertime entertainment director, your children may not know what to do with themselves. This will change as children gradually become more accustomed to relying on their own devices to creatively entertain themselves.

Many families find that they do best when they strike a balance between free time and planned activities. For example, you may wish to keep a calendar of scheduled activities such as trips to visit relatives, outings to the zoo, library, museum, or the family vacation. But don’t be tempted to over schedule, and make time at the end of each day to relax, talk or read.

Take a few quiet moments to reminisce on the simple summertime activities that brought you pleasure when you were a child. Perhaps they can become family traditions that you share with your own children and one day, with your children’s children.

About the author: Dubbed “The Dream Maker” by People magazine, Patti Teel is a former teacher and the author of The Floppy Sleepy Game Book, which gives parents techniques to teach their children a nightly ritual to independently de-stress, relax and fall asleep. Children who know how to quiet themselves and turn inward will be able to relax and fall asleep—even when they are far from home, such as on a family vacation or at summer camp. Visit Patti online to subscribe to her free newsletter - www.pattiteel.com.