you ask two children, both raised by the same parents, how
they feel about their parents, you will likely get two different
answers. Children interpret things differently. While one
child might feel, for example, that she was disciplined appropriately,
the other might feel she was treated unfairly or abused. As
adults, many of our decisions are based on our own upbringing
and experiences. This can be good or bad. Some may repeat
their own parents’ parenting style and some may choose
the complete opposite.
to consider when making parenting choices:
will my choices affect my children’s future happiness,
outlook on life, behavior and relationships?
generally want the best for their kids; even the ones that
don’t make the best choices. Of course, no parent is
perfect but some may make better choices than others. Evaluate
your discipline strategies, daily routines, and how you communicate
with your children. If what you are doing or saying is not
the way you want to be parenting, it may be time to refocus
and change your parenting approach.
much time have I spent reading or educating myself on my parenting
is not to say that everything written in books is concrete
or right. As stated earlier, there are no rules to parenting
and one size does not fit all. However, there is a lot of
value in learning from others. Parents have long followed
others advice on everything from potty training to dealing
with lying. Consider reading books from parenting authors
or talking with other moms that parent similarly.
you like the way you parent?
may be the best way to know if you have picked the right parenting
style for you. Do you feel good about your family life and
your choices? You will never find two parents that agree on
everything when it comes to parenting. Choose what is right
for you and your family. When you hear how someone else chooses
to parent, before criticizing, try to remember when it comes
to parenting one size does not fit all.