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Choosing Surrogacy
How to Become a Surrogate Mom

Surrogacy is the answer for same sex couples, partners and individuals to have children when they are incapable.

A surrogate mother is a female who agrees to carry a child for nine months so that the child can complete another’s dream of parentage.

Each state has its own definitions and laws pertaining to surrogacy. If you are interested in becoming a surrogate, you should first research your state’s guidelines. There is no national policy in the U.S regarding surrogacy. Each state has drafted its own guidelines, mostly in result of cases that have gone to court.

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To become a surrogate, the woman must not only put her thoughts and feelings on the table, but consider the thoughts and feelings of her family. 100% support from a partner is almost essential. If at anytime during the surrogacy process a problem arises and the burden gets placed on the partner, anger and resentment can arise. When a woman considers surrogacy, she should make sure it’s a family decision. Her entire family will be affected. If the woman is single, then of course, this is not an issue.

Types of Surrogacy

There are two types of surrogacy. The first type- Traditional Surrogacy involves the surrogate’s egg impregnated with the intended father’s sperm or sperm from a donor. This process is generally achieved through IVF (In-vitro fertilization). The other method- Gestational Surrogacy, the surrogate has no biological ties to the child. A donor egg or intended mother’s egg and a donor sperm or intended father’s sperm is used. The egg is then fertilized and implanted into the surrogate’s uterus to be carried to term.

After a woman makes the choice to become a surrogate, she needs to do some research. There are many, many surrogacy agencies currently operating. While I’d like to say that all of them are legitimate, you should always proceed with some caution. Sadly, there are people out there who prey on others’ good intentions. It would also be a good idea to make a few phone calls and go through some legal consultations with your local surrogacy lawyers. These consultations are generally free and will give you a good idea of all the legalities involved with being a surrogate.

It’s a good idea to keep in mind that not all women who choose to be surrogates will end up being surrogates. This is especially true for women who use surrogacy agencies.

Gestational surrogacy comes with a hefty price tag. While traditional surrogacy is by no means cheap, the monetary issue does come into play for a lot of couples. Traditional surrogacy tends to be cheaper. Individuals and couples looking for a traditional surrogate will often look into the age, ethnic background, family history, likes and dislikes, educational background and health of the potential surrogate.

What is actually involved with being a surrogate?

If you’re being a surrogate for a friend or family member, this tends to be slightly simpler. You already have the surrogate and the intended parent(s). All that is needed is the means to fertilize the egg and the legal forms. There are other steps (like drug therapy etc) involved but a major step is matching a surrogate with an intended family.

During the process of surrogacy, another idea to keep in mind is your views on selective reduction. Depending on the method of surrogacy, up to eight fertilized embryos could be implanted into your uterus. Selective reduction is when a doctor enters your uterus and terminates one or several embryos to increase the chances of the others’ survival.

If you are interested in traditional surrogacy (your eggs, donor sperm) after the intended parents are located, lawyers draw up contracts. You may be given hormonal drugs to increase your egg production (or not). You monitor your cycles for several months. The donor sperm, which is either from the intended father or from a donor, is inseminated into your uterus via a home insemination kit or intrauterine insemination at the doctor’s office. Hopefully around 14 days after insemination, you’d be pregnant.

Gestational surrogacy involves a bit more planning.

With gestational surrogacy, the donor and surrogates menstrual cycles need to be synchronized. This is often achieved by artificial chemical means. The surrogate’s blood will be monitored and ultrasounds will be performed to monitor the status of the uterus. The eggs will be removed from the donor, inseminated by the donor sperm, and then implanted into the surrogates several days later.

There is a lot of soul searching, researching and planning involved with surrogacy. Yes, most women are compensated for being surrogates; but for most, it’s not the price. It’s knowing they played a part in completing a family.

© Rebecca Pillar 2007


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