While
there's no guaranteed "right time" to share your
big news, you can increase your chances of meeting with a
positive response if you plan your announcement carefully.
Here are a few tips:
Anticipate
your employer's concerns and be prepared to address them.
Go in with a game plan that specifies how long you intend
to be off work, who might be able to replace you, and what
you intend to do to help train your replacement. Of course,
you'll want to make it clear that this is just a game plan
-- not a guaranteed blueprint for the months ahead. Circumstances
may change if you run into some unexpected complications with
your pregnancy, notes Hamilton, Ontario, obstetrician Margaret
Lightheart, MD.
Understand
your rights as a pregnant employee. If you are expecting a
performance or salary review in the near future, keep your
news to yourself for now. That way, if the review doesn't
go as well as you had hoped, you won't have to wonder whether
you're the victim of pregnancy discrimination.
Time your
announcement to coincide with a major achievement at work
(i.e. the completion of a major project). That way, you can
show your boss through actions rather than words that you
are as productive and committed to your job as ever, thereby
addressing a perennial fear of many employers.
If you
think your boss will react negatively to your news, wait until
the highest-risk period for miscarriage has passed before
sharing your news. (Of course, if you are suffering from severe
morning sickness or other pregnancy-related complications,
you may have to spill the beans a little sooner than you had
hoped in order to explain why you are late coming in each
morning or why you have been taking so much time off for medical
appointments.)
Don't
be afraid to postpone your announcement if your boss is having
a particularly bad day. If she is in a foul mood or is scrambling
to meet an important deadline, hold off on sharing your news
until she's in a more receptive frame of mind.
Last but
not least, be prepared for a less-than-enthusiastic reaction.
While your boss may be genuinely happy for you, she may be
concerned about what your pregnancy may mean to her and the
company, particularly if this is her first experience of dealing
with a pregnant employee. Still, don't let her concerns about
how your pregnancy is going to impact the company's bottom
line make you feel guilty. No one has the right to rain on
your parade during this wondrous time in your life.
About
the author: Ann Douglas is a bestselling pregnancy
and parenting author and mother of four. Her latest books
are Sleep
Solutions for Your Baby, Toddler, and Preschooler: The Ultimate
No-Worry Approach for Each Age and Stage
and Mealtime
Solutions for Your Baby, Toddler, and Preschooler: The Ultimate
No-Worry Approach for Each Age and Stage
.
You can find her online at www.having-a-baby.com.