I could see, from an outsider’s perspective, how someone could see the boys, Bella, and I as siblings instead of as a parent and her three children. And yeah, I guess I can understand how it might upset someone when they first hear that yes, I am the mother of all of them, including Zach. I know I look younger than I am, this is a fact I’ve been made very aware of over the years. I also know that even if I am twenty-two, that’s still kind of young to be the mom of a five year old. But that doesn’t give people the right to be rude. Being (or looking) young does not make someone a bad parent, nor does it mean that the young mom was loose or that her parents were failures as parents. From a first glance you know nothing about this person other than that she appears young and has a child or is pregnant. What basis is that to judge someone on? Better yet, what about you makes you so special that you can even judge that person to begin with?
Yes, I am a young parent, and yes I started at a young age. Does that make me a bad parent by default? No. Does that mean my parents didn’t instill in me a proper set of values and sense of right and wrong? No. Does that make my children mistakes? Never. My children never have been, nor will they ever be, mistakes in my eyes. Unplanned, yes, but a mistake, no. They are the most precious gifts I’ve ever been given. No, I wouldn’t do it over, or waited until I was older. If I did my children would not be the children I have today.
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Trish your kids look just like you. You have a beautiful family. Pay no attention to what other people think. You have to do what is right for you and your family.
I hadn’t realized how much your kids look like you either! They are gorgeous, and I challenge anyone to see those beautiful kids and think of them as “mistakes.”
Trish, as you know I too was pretty young when I had my first two, and I got my share of comments. Pay no attention! You’re a great mom! And yeah, they all look exactly like you - gorgeous!
I can relate to you, although I am not as young. I was 22 when I had Dakota and now I will be 25 with the second one. I have always looked on the young side and I get ALOT of comments from people who assume that I have just gotten married and try to tell me not to rush having kids. That is when I inform them that I am mom to a 3 year old with one on the way.
I try not to pay any attention to people like that. This is your life path and it is working for you, that is all that matters!