**disclaimer** This blog entry is not meant to criticize those who have and continue to use CIO with their children. It is simply how I feel after our recent trial run with CIO.
I am having a terrible time trying to deal with and move past the guilt I feel for allowing my son to CIO on Saturday night. I feel very foolish for not having done my homework in researching both sides of the spectrum before making my decision and now we’re both paying for it. He now seems to have severe anxiety when we bring him into his room (especially at night) and even more so when we put him into his crib. Before Saturday, he was fine putting himself to sleep in his crib, especially during nap time. Now, the screaming begins before we get passed the doorway.
It’s hard for me to even put into words how I’m feeling. I’m so angry at myself and regret having put him through what I can only describe as Hell. At the time when I made the decision, I thought it was for us and would truly work. I knew in my gut something was not right about my decision but I ignored that nagging feeling and now we have a price to pay.
I’m not saying everyone who tries CIO is going to end up feeling this way, this is simply my experience. Like any other parenting style: if it works for you & your family, great! If not, you do your best to find something that does work and is right for you all. I don’t want this to start a debate, I simply needed to express how I’m feeling because I have a terrible habit of bottling things up. :/
Tags: CIO, cry it out
just wanted to send some love on this post… we all do things we regret with our babies. you’ve learnt from it….perhaps pop over to the AP board for advice on gentle sleep… they have some great ideas with no crying involved.
some people also find the no cry sleep solution helpful too.
xx