Don’t know if some of you already know this or not, but I was a single Mom to my teenager for 5 years before I got married to Kevin. It was tough, I’m not going to lie, but we managed. I did what I had to do for years to get by. I was a stripper. The hours were exactly what I needed, I came and went as I pleased, if I had to call out no one gave me a hard time, and most of all…I could make a lot of money in just one night. I started when she was a year old and kept dancing until I got married. Actually, I danced for about a year after I got married, so almost 7 years. In between, I had “real jobs” every now and then, mostly during the Summer time when the business was slow. I never let the business get to me like it did some of my friends. I just worked and that was that.
Then, after I got married, things were a little different. I didn’t want to be there anymore, and Kevin wanted me to stay home. So I did. I became a Stay-At-Home-Mom. And I loved it! Now that things have changed and Kevin isn’t here anymore, I’m having to relearn how to be a Single Mom. Damn it’s hard. And now I have three kids to care for! THREE!! AHHHH!! So far, so good though. I haven’t lost one yet, they’re all clean and well fed. I’m the one who hasn’t showered yet, and I’m mostly eating their leftovers. LOL!! But we are managing. I’m having to change a lot of things, like bedtime. Kevin used to put Lex to bed, and I would put Lo to bed. Now I’m having to figure out how to do that. Thankfully, it’s summer vacation, and we haven’t had to plow right into the school time routine. I can kinda get used to things now and be all set in the Fall. Since I can’t leave either of them alone, I now make a bed on the living room floor and put Lo on the left and Lex on the right. I sit in the middle and read them a bedtime story, and they then fall sleep. 
I actually like it. I realize that we can’t always do that, so I plan on moving Lo upstairs with us, moving the computer and bookshelf downstairs to her room. That will be the office. I think that will work. When I told Lex, he was very excited about it. Right now, he’s only 5 and isn’t wanting his own room, but when he does, I’ll move him into Lo’s room and Lo into his room and move the computer back up here. Voilà!! I got it all figure out. 
There is one thing about this whole Single Mom thing that I am still not liking…….laundry. It’s not so much the laundry, because I love doing it, it’s the fact that it’s in the basement with all the spiders!!!!!! I may have to date the Orkin Man. Every time I go down there, one attacks me!! One ran across my foot yesterday. I died a little inside. So now, when I go down there, I get fully dressed and wear a hat. Pathetic. But hey! I get it done.
I’m sure things will get a lot tougher once I’m working more and have to come home to a messy house and a bunch of dirty kids, but I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it. For now, I’m enjoying spending time with my kids and learning how to do this all over again without screaming at the top of my lungs every 5 minutes when the kids are fighting or messing things up or just plain getting on my nerves. Like just now……I yelled. Hey, no ones perfect, but I try.
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I can relate I worked doing the same job because of the money and the flexibility I really didn’t like the judgement from other moms or people in general that was hard to deal with but I just kept thinking about finishing college and kept away from the kind of life some girls get into while there. Not all the girls where that way most where moms like me or trying to work their way through college. Kudos to you love that you are doing well it will all work out for you best wishes to you and yours.
Thank you, Layla!! Glad to hear some kind words from someone who’s been there.