Valerie

About our blogger: Valerie

I am a 30 something SAHM of 2. After living as Miss Independent, moving around the Southeast, I met and married my Mr. Right. We decided that we wanted to move out of the city and start our family and are blessed now with 2 very energetic and active boys, luckily with a lot of room for them to play. Troy is 4, Will is 18 months and they keep my B-U-S-Y, and on my toes! I have adult withdrawal during the day so I blog to "talk" about things my boys really could care less about--entertainment, fitness/weight loss, news, their moods, funny things they say, things they do that drive me insane...you know, the usuals

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Posts by Valerie:

March 1st, 2012

It’s All About the Presentation

Troy has been wanting to be more independent in so many ways lately. It’s pretty cool, because he really wants to help around the house – cleaning, helping me straighten, and the infamous sanitizing. I think he’s expecting an allowance, but we just pretend to be clueless. That will come eventually, but for now, we are just enjoying his helping. He’s at an age where it’s actually helping too, so that’s cool … not like Will’s age, where his helping turns into, “Hey, let’s make a huge mess for Mom to do more work.”

Lately, though, he’s really been wanting to help make meals. The other day, I told him to go ahead and make his dinner. I was very curious about what he would choose to go with his peanut butter sandwich (because that part was a given). I was very proud when he chose raspberries and tomatoes. I HAVE been teaching him well after all! I did learn something though. Apparently just putting them in groups on a plate isn’t enough. It truly is all about the presentation…

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February 13th, 2012

Eat Dirt

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXZEHCv9odA

I heard this song the other day and loved it. It’s one of those songs that I can totally agree with on one hand, and on the other, never want my kids to hear it. Take a listen and see what you think. No one wants their children to experience pain and heartache, but sometimes it truly can be the only way to truly grow. It also reminds me a lot of someone I am close with who will do anything and everything to protect her children from learning things the hard way. She feels that she “messed up” so much as a teen that her children should just listen to her and avoid doing things she did. However, as much as I understand that, sometimes I think children need to learn things by experiencing. Of course, I will never suggest to my boys that they should do certain things and figure it out (ie. drugs, smoking, drinking). Will they do it? Who knows, but I can guess they will try no matter what I say, but like I said, I will never encourage it. I am speaking more about things that aren’t illegal and dangerous, but events that may be difficult.

This song makes me think about helicopter parenting. You know, those parents who hover and swoop in to help even when it may not the best idea. I strongly believe in being there for your children in every instance (what parent doesn’t, right?), but children also need to learn how to solve problems, handle heartache, defeat, and yes, learn lessons, even if it’s not pleasant for them. I will be there to help when I feel it’s needed, but you will not find me making excuses when my children lose, fail, or struggle. I will be there to comfort, but I will never blame someone else (unless it’s truly obvious it is someone’s fault, of course). Is this the best way? No clue, but it’s going to be my way. So yes, I will let my children “eat dirt.”

February 1st, 2012

Adding to the Family

This weekend, we made the decision to add to our family. Two children just aren’t enough for us, so after much thought and me being very patient (as I was ready weeks ago), we chose to adopt. She’s a beautiful 10 month old girl, and we are all in love with her. She’s very sweet and gentle, but she has a little separation anxiety. I think as she gets used to our house and our routines, that will ease up. I really think that she’s the perfect fit with our family and will be a great little companion for all of us, particularly the boys.

Meet Sabre :)

I know growing up, having a dog was so perfect for me. I loved having a dog to play with, take for walks, sit with, and just to have close by. For me, I wanted the boys to have this as well. After Buffy was hit in September, it was obvious that something was missing from our family. Even though she wasn’t playful with the boys and kept to herself, it just wasn’t the same. I have missed her terribly, and I know the boys have as well. Read the rest of this entry »

January 20th, 2012

Why I Do What I Do

I have taken on a lot of volunteer work lately, so much that my husband says that I am a “Professional Volunteer.” He’s probably right. I get a lot of slack for my meetings, phone calls, emails and such that go along with this, but the truth is, I enjoy it. I have posted a lot about being a stay at home mom and the challenges, the good things, the bad things…..and honestly, I wouldn’t change it. Are there times when I think maybe I should get a job? Of course. But then I know if I was working, I would wish I was staying at home again, so I know that for me, this is the best case scenario. I stay at home with the boys, and I work on projects that I feel strongly about as well. Do these projects take me away from the boys and the things I need to do at home? Yes. Does it get frustrating and overwhelming at times? YES! Am I going to stop? No way Jose. I get a lot of people that ask why I take on so much, and so here’s my answer.

I know I have mentioned it before, but honestly I am too lazy to go back and link and already putting things off by posting (hello procrastination…..), so I will just repeat. I quit working 2 weeks before I had Troy. I wanted to get everything in order and also didn’t want to just not show for work one day and that be it. Closure was needed, if that’s what you want to call it. I tried to keep up with my athletic training certification, personal training certification, and teaching license, but I knew it would be YEARS before I went back to work. It is very expensive to keep up with continuing education, licensure dues, membership dues, and such, so we decided that I was done. When the time came to go back, I would figure it all out. So, basically, I gave up everything to be a SAHM.

For months, I felt very lost. I loved being at home and not having to deal with working and raising a child, but I really was struggling. I was lonely, because no one else I knew was a SAHM. I joined a Mommy group, but it was a 45 min drive and just got to be too much. My attempts at starting up a group in my area failed, minus the fact that I made really good friends out of it. The group fizzled, and now we just get together when we have time. I could go through all the ways staying at home was and is amazing for me, but there was still something that I was always missing. When I started volunteering with certain groups and had things in my life that were not child related, it all came together. I just needed it for me, and so I began taking on lots of volunteer work and finally felt fulfilled. Read the rest of this entry »

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December 21st, 2011

Am I the Only One?

For the past few years, I have noticed something. It’s probably been this way for years, but I never paid any attention until having kids. At our local (well, 30 min. away) mall, the Santa area is set up right by Victoria’s Secret. Makes me wonder why they feel this is the best place? Sure, the kids see it when they walk by to other places, but am I the only one with boys particularly fascinated with half naked women? A little too fascinated for their ages – but maybe they are different?? I don’t know since I haven’t noticed it with other children before. Anyway, I guess I wonder if I am the only one who finds this odd? I would think they would want the Santa closer to more kid related stores or the kid’s play area. I have a few theories though.

1) Having it near VS keeps men from grumbling too much when the kids want to go. I mean, the line today was SOOOO long, so what better displays to look at, right?

2) The moms who stand in line for as long as they did today may look over and decide they should treat themselves to something nice, since they just dealt with mad chaos for who knows how long?

3) A female decided on the location to show men what they *should* buy their wives.

The husband has his theory, which makes perfect sense, about how putting Santa near the stores geared towards adults is simply better. The kids are going to want to see Santa wherever he may be, so putting it near these types of stores is just smarter. Period. Makes sense, so now I am changing my question to, “Am I the only one who has children that are overly fascinated with a 1/2 naked female???” You should see them at the beach! (They have yet to see Santa at the Mall though – not because of this, but because I am too cheap to pay for the picture.)

December 15th, 2011

Making Snowman Pops

It’s become a necessity to take treats to your child’s class on his or her birthday, so today was my turn. Troy is not a cake or cupcake child. He loves the idea, proceeds to eat the icing, then says “Mommy, I don’t like this” and throws the rest away. It makes me cringe every time I see all that food go wasted, and I personally don’t want to eat every single one that he or Will (who is the exact same way) throw away. I wasn’t sure what to do and came across Snowman Pops in Parents magazine. They are Oreo cookies, marshmallows, and vanilla and chocolate coating. PERFECT! However, I am not great at reproducing these awesome ideas, I see so I enlisted some help from the husband. We tackled this chore Sunday afternoon. Yes, we passed up watching football so you know just how important this was for us!

What you need:
Oreos
Mini chocolate chips for making eyes and mouth
Orange candy or orange icing for nose
Large Marshmallows for hats
Vanilla Candy Melts or Vanilla CandiQuick
Chocolate Candy Melts or Chocolate CandiQuick
Lollipop Sticks
Foam Block

1) Melt the vanilla candy melts as directed and dip the oreos in it to completely cover. I did this by hand and smoothed the edges, adding more coating as needed with the back of a spoon. Set on wax paper. Add the chocolate chips to eyes and mouth while it’s setting so that they set into the coating. Trim the orange candy or apply the orange icing to make the nose.

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December 5th, 2011

Showering Baby with Love–Get Creative!

I love love love love baby showers. I just love seeing all the beautiful outfits and cool toys or gadgets that others give. I love showering these tiny little babes with love and things they need or things parents could use.  I often hear comments that bother me though. “Showers are for welcoming a woman into motherhood and only for 1st child.” “Why is she having ANOTHER baby shower? She already has 2 (or insert another number here) children.” “She already has everything she needs so why is she having another shower?” “I swear, some women have children just so they get gifts.” (And yes, I really have heard someone say that.) “I think it’s tacky to have a shower for someone if it’s their 2nd (or 3rd or 4th…) child.” And so on and so on.

These comments bother me, because why is only the 1st child okay to shower with love? Why shouldn’t EVERY baby be celebrated, regardless of the mother’s situation? Remember, showers are about the baby who had no choice in the situation, so why should the 3rd or 4th (or more) baby be slighted? And people who make the comments about the mother having children just for gifts, let me ask this: how many moms actually organize their own shower? Usually, it’s someone in their life that wants to do this for them. Now, there are some exceptions, and you run across a mom who organizes her own or demands someone throw a shower for them, but that’s a whole different post. What I am referring to are showers given out of love and kindness for whatever pregnancy this may be.

Of course, the question still remains about gifts. What if the mother truly has everything they need? Well, then you just have to get creative. Here are a few ideas I have run across in my years of going to many showers. Maybe just maybe one will help you if you ever run into this issue!

1) The gift of the major (and truly very expensive) necessity. Find out the diaper brand the mom prefers to use and bring a package in the various sizes and a package of wipes. She’s cloth diapering? No problem. Find out what she has or needs and you can add to their collection! Or do a GC for a site that sells cloths and accessories like www.thanksmama.com. Or get the supplies they need to launder them like Rockin Green soap. Read the rest of this entry »

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November 19th, 2011

This week, I am Thankful for….

This week, I am thankful for everyday heroes – those people that serve our communities day in and day out, risking their lives to help others. These are jobs that scare me to death, and although I would be so worried about my boys if they pursued one of them, I would be so very proud as well. Obviously, I am talking about police officers, firefighters, and EMTs/Paramedics.

My boys are obsessed with these professions, and we have a full emergency garage at our house. It’s full of fire trucks, police cars, ambulances, rescue helicopters, and anything else the boys feel should be available to serve in any emergency (4 wheelers, tow trucks, “rescue” motorcycles….). We have played “911. What’s your emergency?” a number of times, and the boys have saved people from accidents, burning homes, and hazmat situations. They have rescued animals from burning barns or from people trying to steal them. Troy has given numerous talks on fire safety to children, and he has a full staff of “fire kids” trained to help him. Oh, and we can’t forget that Buffy was the “fire dog” when she was with us. Plus, I cannot tell you the number of tickets they have issued for traffic violations. As you can see, the boys take their job as hero very seriously and are the first to notice any vehicle with sirens. They must analyze what they could possibly be dealing with, where they are going, and such each time we see one.

We are also very lucky to have so many friends and family that work in such professions, so this thrills the boys and their eyes light up when we say, “Did you know that so and so is a firefighter (or police officer or EMT)?” It’s such a look of admiration that it warms my heart. It helps also that everyone we meet is so eager to talk with the boys, show them around the equipment, or let them help in some way! These people are truly heroes in our eyes!

And to show the love my boys have, here are some pics. You will notice there is a favorite though… Read the rest of this entry »

October 27th, 2011

Words every mother wants to hear

I love you? Mama? Dada? Are these the words that every mother wants to hear? Of course!

These words mean so much. The minute your child begins to talk, it’s amazing. You start obsessing and trying to get them to say everything! “I love you” is something you cannot wait to hear from your boyfriend or girlfriend – and especially your child. It can mean so much, and it brings tears to your eyes when you finally hear it. Nothing is cuter than hearing that little voice say, “Wub you!”

Yes, there are so many words that have such a special meaning to a mother. Today, I heard words from my husband that I truly thought I would never hear, and I about fell out in the floor (which would have been a disaster with a catheter, I might add). I almost asked them to be repeated over and over, because I thought they would never be said:

“I don’t do enough around here. There’s stuff ALL.DAY.LONG!”

Halleluia! Can I get an AMEN!

Yes, throughout this ordeal with surgery gone awry, Mr. Mom has finally realized what all is involved with being a stay at home parent. He’s always thanked me for all I do, but he truly had NO idea until being a SAHD for almost a week. I admit, I was actually afraid it would backfire and Jay would be saying, “This isn’t so hard, why are you so tired,” or, “Why can’t you do it all?” Luckily, that is not the case, and those words were beautiful, soooooo very beautiful. It almost makes all this pain and suffering worthwhile. Well, not really, but still, good to hear!

October 13th, 2011

Lazy or Smart???

When Troy was younger, I made sure he did things on his own. Some we taught him, others he figured out on his own, BUT he was fairly independent as a toddler. I remember being somewhere and a man stepped in to try to help Troy with his jacket (because apparently I was totally ignoring him), and Troy said, “No thanks, I can do it.” The man was amazed, because Troy was maybe 3. This was one of those things Troy was determined to do alone, and he learned quickly.

Now, fast forward to Will. The problem we are facing now is that we always seem to be in a rush to get here or there, so I am always doing everything for him – getting him dressed, putting on his shoes and socks, helping him with his jacket… Now that I try to get him to do stuff, he has no clue how. Or does he? Does he not know? Is he lazy? Or is he so smart that he knows I will do it for him? Hmmmmmmmm. I just don’t know.

I am definitely trying to make help him become more independent, but he’s very resistant. So is this a 2nd child thing, or is it something that we have created? I doubt we’ll ever know the answer, since we still rush here there and everywhere, but I know that I need to focus more on helping teach him how to do things on his own. However, watching him try sometimes is painful since he really does seem to not have a clue. I will swear, though, that the little bugger is smart enough to know how to act clueless and incapable when he’s probably thinking, “I have these people wrapped around my little finger and they will do ANYTHING for me.” The sad thing is, he’s right. Sigh. Definitely a baby of the family trait. Not that I would have ever done anything like that…….

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