Posts Tagged ‘Adoption’

Failed Adoption

Friday, July 15th, 2011 by by

I contacted a woman regarding adoption a couple of weeks ago, and at first it seemed perfect. There were some red flags from the beginning, but given her situation, we decided to take the wait and see approach. However, as time went on, we became more and more uncomfortable with the situation. In fact, in her last email to me, she admitted that the paternal grandmother may try (and succeed) to convince the father not to sign TPR. That combined with many other issues was just too much.

We’ve been hurt so many times. I can’t keep this going and have it fall through in Dec/Jan. (She is due Jan 13th, but with it being twins, chances are they’d come before that.)

I had a breakdown today. The emotions completely blindsided me. It’s like I got pregnant four times only to be told “Psyche! Just kidding. You can’t have them.” Then go on to adopt twins only to be laughed at again. Oh, and let’s not forget the time we tried to adopt my nephew, only to have that fall through…and the teen that was considering adoption only to miscarry. I feel like I’m some cosmic joke…like I’m just a toy for God and the angels or something.

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Due Dates and adoption

Tuesday, June 28th, 2011 by by

Based on EDD’s (estimated due dates), I should have an almost 4 year old (in Oct), a 3 year old (next week), a 2 year old (in less than a month), and an 8 month old (tomorrow).

I hate July. It’s one of those months that provides a strong reminder of what I’m not allowed to have for whatever reason. I know we’re working toward adoption, ever-so-slowly, but it’s not the same.

Do I doubt that I’ll love the adopted child any less? Not at all. I’ve always wanted to adopt. In fact, I wanted to adopt LONG before I decided I wanted biological children. It’s more the fact of knowing that my genes will never be carried on, nor will my husband’s. I will never create a life that gets to live outside of my womb. I will never feel a baby kick inside me. I won’t feel those first bouts of the hiccups. I’ll never have my water break. There are just so many things you cannot do with an adopted child that you could with a biological child during those first 9 months of the baby’s existence. I’d be lying if I said I wouldn’t miss that.

And it starts!

Wednesday, May 25th, 2011 by by

Within hours of the announcement we had people asking how they could help. A few of those ladies, rather than asking, offered to run a fundraiser for us. The first is now up and running: https://kcardwell.scentsy.us/Buy?partyId=38314673

Kristin has gracious offered to let this run for 6 weeks and is giving us 100% of her profit from this party. Please take a look and spread the word. After 4 losses and more than a year of infertility, it feels great to be on the road to a baby.

New plan (again)

Monday, May 16th, 2011 by by

Hopefully, this will be our last ever ‘new plan.’

Today, we went to an adoption seminar. I won’t bore you with all the details. I will say that Chris and I are both glad we went. There were three attorneys present that spoke about the local laws. Going in, I was nervous that this would either make it seem like it was impossible for us or that it would cause some bickering between us. If you remember from previous posts, we haven’t exactly been on the same page about timing of all this.

Anyways, back to the plan. We’re going to start with making a list of things that we’d like done before a home study. We’ve given ourselves one week to create the list. We’re then taking one week for each item on the list.

Once the list is mostly done, we’ll start looking for an attorney and home study agency. Then, finally, we’ll start networking. :) I’m so excited and relieved to finally be moving forward with something.

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