I love love love love baby showers. I just love seeing all the beautiful outfits and cool toys or gadgets that others give. I love showering these tiny little babes with love and things they need or things parents could use. I often hear comments that bother me though. “Showers are for welcoming a woman into motherhood and only for 1st child.” “Why is she having ANOTHER baby shower? She already has 2 (or insert another number here) children.” “She already has everything she needs so why is she having another shower?” “I swear, some women have children just so they get gifts.” (And yes, I really have heard someone say that.) “I think it’s tacky to have a shower for someone if it’s their 2nd (or 3rd or 4th…) child.” And so on and so on.
These comments bother me, because why is only the 1st child okay to shower with love? Why shouldn’t EVERY baby be celebrated, regardless of the mother’s situation? Remember, showers are about the baby who had no choice in the situation, so why should the 3rd or 4th (or more) baby be slighted? And people who make the comments about the mother having children just for gifts, let me ask this: how many moms actually organize their own shower? Usually, it’s someone in their life that wants to do this for them. Now, there are some exceptions, and you run across a mom who organizes her own or demands someone throw a shower for them, but that’s a whole different post. What I am referring to are showers given out of love and kindness for whatever pregnancy this may be.
Of course, the question still remains about gifts. What if the mother truly has everything they need? Well, then you just have to get creative. Here are a few ideas I have run across in my years of going to many showers. Maybe just maybe one will help you if you ever run into this issue!
1) The gift of the major (and truly very expensive) necessity. Find out the diaper brand the mom prefers to use and bring a package in the various sizes and a package of wipes. She’s cloth diapering? No problem. Find out what she has or needs and you can add to their collection! Or do a GC for a site that sells cloths and accessories like www.thanksmama.com. Or get the supplies they need to launder them like Rockin Green soap. (more…)