Posts Tagged ‘body image’

Wasted Thoughts On Dissatisfaction With My Body

Monday, May 28th, 2012 by by

Welcome to the 4th story in our series, beYOUtiful Mom!

Featured Writer: Beth Saavedra

I want to

Since my wedding day (that oft cited standard of ideal female weight), I’ve gained over thirty pounds. I’ve also launched a professional career, borne four children, made an international move, gained reasonable fluency in a second language, and read enough books to fill a truck bed.

So why is it that I often feel defined by my weight gain and not those other milestones?

Why does concern/worry/despair about my body take up so much of my thought life?

That’s valuable brain real estate I could really be using for other purposes!

If I could pick up all the thoughts I’ve wasted on dissatisfaction with my body, pack those thoughts into a ball, and weigh it on a scale, there would be a lot of energy represented in that sphere. (more…)


Monday: Why I am Not Fat

Monday, April 16th, 2012 by by

Obesity epidemic. In American, more than 1 in 3 adults is not overweight, but obese.

I can’t speak for men, but I can give some perspectives from a woman’s side. Weight issues are EVERYWHERE. Regardless of a woman’s current weight, we are always looking to lose something. 5 pounds, 10 pounds, that belly jiggle or those un-firm thighs. As soon as we accomplish one weight loss goal, we are unsatisfied and find something else ‘wrong’ with us to fix.

You know how easy it is to get sucked in.

This is how I got out.

In junior high, all of my friends and I were always on some diet or another- no sugar, no carbs, low calorie, crazy workouts. This might make sense if any of us had a real weight issue.

We didn’t. We were shopping the size 0-2 racks.

How could we be so obsessed? (more…)

Closet Frustration

Sunday, November 14th, 2010 by by

I wanna kill my closet!

Hubby and I are having our first date night since baby bird was born. I’ve been looking forward to a date night for what feels like forever. Just me and hubby time, time for us to update each other on what has happened in our new everyday lives that we don’t get to tell each other due to factors that prevent us from really communicating (i.e. diaper changes, bathes, etc.). Pre-baby, I think I took that time for granted.

Thursday, date night was something I was excited about. I enjoyed thinking about the new restaurants we could try or movies we could go watch. I wanted time for ourselves. I wanted to be romanced. I wanted to laugh at the random things he says. I wanted to time for us to pause co-parenting and focus on “us.” Wish granted.

We decided that we are going to try a new sushi place that many of our friends have raved about. We love sushi so much!! All day, I thought about our date night and couldn’t wait. My mother came to babysit little bird, so we didn’t have to worry about her all night. We have no curfew, which feels great – not that we plan on going on an all night binge drinking rampage (although I would like to, lol).

Dinner time was approaching, so I needed to get ready. Going to dinner in my pajamas was out of the question, right? Well, after my shower I stood in front of my closet and realized I have nothing to wear that fits. Ugh! (more…)

Real Women- Real Bodies

Thursday, May 14th, 2009 by by

I think it is impossible for most women to accept their bodies.  If you love your body 100% then I applaud you!  I would love to say that I have accepted my post-partum body but this is not the case.  I have stretch marks on my breasts, a few on my stomach, the thighs, butt, and even on my calves!  My stomach is still squishy even though I have lost all of my baby weight.  My breasts are larger and saggier.  I miss my A cups!  I am a completely different shape than I used to be.  I am proud of the work I have done to lose my weight but there is absolutely more work to be done.

I came across this blog today -
The Belly Project- showing real women’s stomachs.  Most depict post-partum stomachs.  There are large, small, stretch marked, sagging, and even pregnant stomachs in the gallery.  Each photo gives the history of the belly.  Pregnancies, miscarriages, abortions, etc.  Of course the photo is anonymous.
Hands on stomach of a pregnant woman

This blog reminded me of another website I came across about real breasts.  I remember when I was first getting (more…)