Posts Tagged ‘choices’

Choices, Choices, Choices

Wednesday, March 31st, 2010 by by

I’ve hit a mini-milestone of two months since I enacted my daily meditation practice. During this time I’ve experimented with different meditation methods from vipassana (Insight), metta (loving-kindness), guided, to chakra meditations. I love each avenue and “reach” for one depending on my needs at that moment, either because of my mood or my surroundings.

But I’ve been reading Jack Kornfield’s A Path with Heart in which he encourages you to “take the one seat”. He admonishes:

“If we do a little of one kind of practice and a little of another, the work we have done in one often doesn’t continue to build as we change to the next. It is as if we were to dig many shallow wells instead of one deep one. In continually moving from one approach to another, we are never forced to face our own boredom, impatience, and fears. We are never brought face to face with ourselves. So we need to choose a way of practice that is deep and ancient and connected with our hearts, and then make a commitment to follow it as long as it takes to transform ourselves.”

But how in the world do I choose one meditation style? This conundrum made me think of (more…)


Getting Silly With It

Friday, June 26th, 2009 by by

Getting a toddler to do anything in any given time period is a tough job. A lot of mornings it comes down to one simple thing: my son doesn’t let to get dressed. He wants to sit around watching TV and playing with toys, eating breakfast and drinking chocolate milk, all in just his diaper. Any attempt to alter this schedule does not end well.

For quite a while, we tried taking a hard line with Eric. I ask first, and if he doesn’t listen, I tell him sternly that this is the way it’s going to be. I’m the parent, after all, and he does need to listen to me. Unfortunately, this is where the toddler power struggle begins.

I try to avoid the toddler power struggle, I really do. I offer choices, but he just says no and (more…)