Posts Tagged ‘CIO’

Not for us

Thursday, July 2nd, 2009 by by

**disclaimer**   This blog entry is not meant to criticize those who have and continue to use CIO with their children. It is simply how I feel after our recent trial run with CIO.

I am having a terrible time trying to deal with and move past the guilt I feel for allowing my son to CIO on Saturday night. I feel very foolish for not having done my homework in researching both sides of the spectrum before making my decision and now we’re both paying for it. He now seems to have severe anxiety when we bring him into his room (especially at night) and even more so when we put him into his crib. Before Saturday, he was fine putting himself to sleep in his crib, especially during nap time. Now, the screaming begins before we get passed the doorway.

It’s hard for me to even put into words how I’m feeling. I’m so (more…)

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And so it ends

Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 by by

Last night’s try with CIO was successful in the respect that my son fell asleep at 11:20 pm after 2 hours and 35 minutes of crying and slept until 9:40 this morning. However, I had issues going to sleep last night. The image of my poor child passed out on his belly with his butt up against one of the bars on the foot of his crib with both of his legs sticking out on either side of the sidebar his butt was up against has been permanently etched into my mind. I also had a terrible feeling in my gut telling me “don’t do this” but I ignored it thinking it was my motherly instinct wanting to tend to my crying child and it was something I needed to push aside in order to help my son out. Well, my motherly instinct won over tonight and the doubt that I feel about using CIO has persuaded me that I shouldn’t be practicing it.

I know CIO vs not CIO is a heated debate and I’m not saying I’m for or against it. It works for some and not for others like any other form of parenting. Who knows, we may go back to it when he is older or we may even try again next week. However, for right now, I’m going to try something else that I feel is right in my heart and I’m hoping I get the same promising results my mother had 19 years ago when she tried it with my younger brother.

And so it begins

Monday, June 29th, 2009 by by

I finished reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child this morning and decided to jump right into a plan to help my son’s sleep issues. I actually tried to let him CIO (cry it out) a few times last night, but I was home alone and did not succeed. The maximum amount of time I allowed him to cry last night was 20 minutes before I hit my breaking point. It was not a good night and he ended up being up extra late because he got so worked up.

Tonight, we did our bedtime routine and he was in bed by 6:01 pm. As expected, he protested and I jumped on the computer to keep my mind occupied while my baby cried in the next room. To my surprise, the crying ceased exactly 10 minutes after it started. Ahh, silence. Of course, that was the easy part. He woke up about 8:45 pm for his usual hang out with mama time and we have not gone in to see him. It has been almost 2 agonizing hours of crying so far. I know we are doing this for his own good and putting himself back to sleep on a proper schedule is a skill he needs to learn sooner rather than later but dang it’s hard to refrain myself from going into his room and scooping him up in my arms and holding him tightly. I know we need to do this now. The longer we wait for him to grow out of it (more…)