Posts Tagged ‘Military spouses’

The life of a military child

Monday, June 25th, 2012 by by

I grew up as a military brat.  My dad was in the Air Force, and during Desert Storm he was gone quite a bit.  After that, he frequently TDY’d for long periods of time.  He was in the EOD (Explosive Ordinance Disposal), you know – the guys who get rid of bombs.  I was used to him being in and out of our house and knowing there were two types of normal – one when my dad was home, and one when he was gone.

When my husband enlisted, I was originally opposed to it.  I didn’t want to have to kiss him goodbye, and I didn’t want my kids to grow up while he came in and out of our lives.  We both knew this was the best road for our family, though.  We wanted a large family, we were young, we were already pregnant with Anthony, and we needed stability.  The military doesn’t provide home stability, but it does provide job security, a community, and benefits that make it easier to breathe at times. So he enlisted.  He left when Anthony was 3 months, and we reunited when Anthony was 8 months old.  He deployed off and on, or TDY’d off and on for the next year or so, but it was okay.  I had one child, I had a great group of friends, I was young and in shape, and I was determined to be a strong military wife.  After our daughter was born, he left for 6 out of her first 8 months.  I had severe PPD, I had a falling out with a friend, and my daughter was very high needs. Still, I conquered those deployments, and when my husband came home he transferred to the school house so he could further his career and stay home with us.  It was supposed to be a 2 year assignment, but it turned into 4 years.

During that time, we had 3 more kids, my health began to fade as my EDS became more painful and apparent, and my friends PCSed or separated from the military.  I was no longer a young nor new military spouse, and I found it harder to find people who were in the same stage of life as I was.

Now Chris is deployed again.  The longest deployment we’ve had yet – 6 months.  This isn’t like the other deployments, for me or my kids.   (more…)


In Honor of My Brother in Law

Saturday, April 2nd, 2011 by by
My Brother in Law is coming home today for a short R&R. He’s been deployed now for about 8 months and still has a few months left (hopefully, just a few). He called my sister this morning to let her know to pick him up at the airport. How she has made it through a day of teaching, I will never know, but she’s leaving soon to meet him. However, there’s just a little twist – she’s not telling her children what they are doing. Anaka is 5 1/2 and Antonio is 2 1/2, so this will be something so wonderful for them. I am so excited for all of them, I can barely stand it! So in honor of all the tears of joy that will be shed, here’s a video to watch. Yes, you will cry. I dare you to watch it and NOT get at least a little teary! Hopefully, I will be able to post a video of my niece and nephew soon (if someone can actually stay still to take one)!

A Somber Weekend.

Thursday, March 17th, 2011 by by

Mark was suppose to have drill this weekend. He left Friday morning, and I didn’t expect to see him again until Sunday. When he called late Friday afternoon to ask if his dress shoes were anywhere to be found, I was a bit surprised. He was out in the field. What did he need dress shoes for?

He told me he had been selected for a temporary duty assignment and would be home soon. What assignment would pull him away from drill and require his Class A’s? Not a good one. He was chosen to be a Casualty Assistance Officer.

The duties of the Casualty Assistance Officer are to help a family that has suffered the recent loss of a soldier.

After the family was notified Friday night, Mark contacted them to help prepare them for their trip to Dover for the arrival of their soldier. His duties include being the contact person in case the family has any questions regarding the process and what happens once their soldier is returned home.

Even though we do not personally know this family or soldier, it is a sad time. My heart goes out to them. We, of course, cannot know the full extent of what they are going through but this has had an effect on us. It brings us back to the realization that there is still a war going on. People are still dying.

It is a sad time. A sad time for the family. A sad time for us. A sad time for our country.

I’d Pack That, Too, If I Could

Saturday, August 28th, 2010 by by

Ah, packing.  The constant shuffling of items in and out of boxes these past few years has left me all-too-skilled at putting our life into boxes.  We had phase one of packing a month or so ago, when we knew the move was looming.  We weeded through the garage and boxed up some of the less necessary items.  But, the orders weren’t coming, and we didn’t know when we were actually getting them, so we took a break.  Two days ago, on the 25th, the orders showed up.  The goal for our move-out date?  Sept 1st.  If you do the math, that’s one week exactly for Dustin to check out of the squadron and arrange for new housing in Mississippi.  It’s also one week for me to get everything packed up to be loaded on the truck, and to get the house cleaned up.  Amazingly, I think we’re gonna do it!

In case you haven’t noticed yet, we are DIY movers (Do It Yourself).  Rather than the Navy paying movers to break pack our stuff and get it to our new place weeks after we get there, they pay us a percentage of what they would have paid the movers to do it all ourselves.  It’s a win/win as far as we’re concerned. We put some serious hard work into it and make a nice chunk of change in the process.  We also arrive with all of our stuff, which beats the heck out of sleeping in an empty room with a towel for a bed. (I may have done that during my first move as a Navy wife, just days after getting married. I drove down to Texas, (more…)


Memorial Day Ramblings

Monday, May 31st, 2010 by by

Memorial Day has become very important to our family. We have always remembered our family and friends who have served in the Armed Forces, but this year, it just hits closer to home. My brother in law is in the Army Reserves and is about to be deployed for the 2nd time in 7 years. He served in Operation Iraqi Freedom 2002-2003 and is set to leave for another year sometime in the near future. He leaves my sister with their 2 young children (4 1/2 and 21 months). As anyone can imagine this is very hard on all of them. He is a very proud soldier and enjoys his job however, he knows that he will be missing so much. Last time he left, he and my sister were dating and it was hard enough. This time, it’s going to be unimaginable how things are before he leaves. He does have 3 weeks that he can focus on his family and preparing himself and them as he leaves, but can you truly prepare children of that age? I just don’t know. (more…)