Posts Tagged ‘motivation’

Motivation Monday: Never Give Up

Monday, March 5th, 2012 by by

We all have goals that we want to accomplish.

As long you never give up, you will reach and surpass them.

Sometimes we get sidetracked, but hopefully your determination leads you right back to your goals.

If you miss a workout or eat something not so healthy, don’t give up.

It doesn’t mean you failed.

We all have times that things just don’t happen the way we planned or hoped.

What makes all the difference is how you deal with those times.  Don’t beat yourself up.

There have been many times that I haven’t eaten perfectly, but that next meal is when I do eat healthy.  Don’t wait until the next day – start with your next meal.

And if you skip a workout, you can make it up later in the day or the next day.  As long as you get back up, then the one or more missed workouts isn’t detrimental to your success.

Remember, you can do it as long as you never, never, never give up!!

Do you have your goals visible so you have something to keep you on track?


The Thrill of Victory, The Agony of Getting Advice From Your Mom….

Tuesday, May 31st, 2011 by by

“You are never really playing an opponent. You are playing yourself, your own highest standards, and when you reach your limits, that is real joy”.

Arthur Ashe

We kicked off our Memorial Day weekend with a hastily arranged Little League baseball tournament.  Each team was scheduled to play 3 games in order to claim a berth in the playoffs on Sunday – one game Friday night and two during the day on Saturday.

After an auspicious start on Friday, Hayden’s team ended up losing a 7-run lead in the bottom of the 5th inning (they play 6).  The other team only had one run up on us though, so just as we all thought they could launch a comeback in the last inning, the game was called for time (it’s a 2 hour max).  I don’t care what anyone says, losing sucks, especially like that.

Unfortunately, Hayden has a hard time letting go of a loss.  The rest of the evening, he sequestered himself in his room and no one was allowed to speak of the game.  I became aware of seriousness of this mandate when I made the mistake of making a comment about said game to our sitter.  “I can HEAR you,” Hayden yelled from behind a closed door one floor above.

Saturday morning, Hayden was still stewing, but I pulled from my stores of “good sport” adages as we headed to the field and hoped for an attitudinal turn-around.  During the first game, Hayden’s team beat their opponents handily, and I breathed a sigh of relief, but that relief didn’t last for long. (more…)

Setting a goal

Friday, June 19th, 2009 by by

I’m setting myself a goal for this summer. (Well, I plan to start another one too, but let’s see how the first goes before I over commit myself.) My goal is to clean. That might not seem like much to you, but to me it is a lot. I’ve never been one who needs a clean clean house. I mean my house isn’t nasty, but it’s never really clean unless John does it or if I know we are having a lot of people over. I’m fine with clutter, dust, and a nice lived in feel to my house. John and my mom say this is just laziness on my part, and yeah, they are mostly right. I just really hate cleaning, and when you have three little kids, two of which are super active and awesome mess makers, I don’t see much point in doing a lot of cleaning. The boys mess up an area as soon as I clean it, so why should I bother?

But, at the root of almost all of mine and John’s fights is the house. John, for some reason that baffles me, likes a clean house. He enjoys coming home to a clean and organized house, which has only happened like once. I’ve been using the excuse of Bella for not cleaning lately, but I can always find an excuse to not clean. I’ve had seventeen years of practicing excuses to not clean. However, Bella is no longer an excuse since she’s pretty set into a schedule now, something that John is unfortunately well aware of. Also, it bugs me that John doesn’t help much in the day-to-day cleaning. He likes to do all-out-super cleaning during the weekend, which can take a whole day or two to accomplish, and is extremely stressful on all of us.

So, my goal is to clean, and clean daily. I’m not setting out with this unrealistic idea that I’ll have supermom level clean in my house by the first day or two, or even week. I’m using the Home Organization Plan from JustMommies. It has easily completed tasks for each day, even if you have kids. There are nifty little calendars and chore charts you can print out, plus a cool monthly goal, this month’s, Kid’s Bedrooms, seems tailor made for me since the boys keep their rooms a wreck.

So today is day one. Its time for me to get my butt of the computer and do a little cleaning.

Remember that 12 week exercise plan of mine…

Friday, April 24th, 2009 by by

Uh… yeh.. I have been avoiding posting about this.  You all probably know what is coming next… I have totally fallen off the exercise wagon.  Big surprise?  Here is a little secret about exercising and blogging, if you don’t read someone posting about it on her blog, it is because she isn’t doing it!  Exercising is very hard and when blogging moms actually will themselves to exercise, they want to tell someone so that someone will say woo hoo, you go girl, or some other type of accolade.  I know you know what I am talking about.  So when you see a mom keeping quiet after making a proclamation that she will be exercising for twelve weeks, well it should be a dead giveaway that um.. she isn’t doing it.

I know I should feel bad about this, but I don’t.  I despise exercising.  I want to have the body that goes along with exercising but when it comes down to it I really don’t want to do the work.  I say things to my husband like, “I don’t look so bad for a 35 year old mom that has had 4 kids, right?”  And, when he hesitates with his response I get annoyed.

Note to men readers:  when your wife asks you if she looks okay (and especially when she amends her statement (more…)


Stay at home mom lala land

Thursday, April 9th, 2009 by by

So today when I was taking a shower I started thinking about stay at home mom hygiene.  Oh no, I am not talking about this subject.  But, I am.  Sorry, get over it.  So as I was taking my shower for the first time in three days (I am almost embarrassed to admit this but I decided to post about it anyway), I was thinking about how different my life is as a stay at home mom.  When I had a job, I would never think of wearing the same clothes for three or four days in a row, but I find myself doing this all the time now.  It is not just because I am lazy – well it is because I am lazy – but not really that I am too lazy to change clothes.  I can handle that really.  I don’t like washing laundry, especially when something is not really dirty, so I just continue wearing my clothes until they look or smell bad.

My hair has not been brushed in three days.  I did take a shower today, but I still haven’t brushed my hair.  I have all this makeup that I never wear.  And, you know my blog bio pic, I never look like that!  It took me an hour and a half to get my hair to look like that, seriously.  I don’t know how all you beautiful moms do it.  I literally washed and blow dried my hair three different times when I took that picture because every time I would dry it, it would look stupid.  My hair looks better when I don’t fix it than when I do.  My fixing is like that old 70s painting show where the guy would have this great painting and then start messing with it and make it look all stupid.  My talent is definitely not in hair styling!

So anyway, I was thinking today about how we have this idealistic view of how life will be if we could just be home full time (or if the kids were in school, or if… you get the point).  I remember when I worked full time that I had this lovely picture in my head of myself as this fab mom that looked great all the time, with a sparkling clean house, well behaved kids, time to exercise, etc., etc. – if only I could be a stay at home mom.  That was my hold up.  I had to go to work at this stinky old job.  If I weren’t doing that, well then I would just be perfect.  I would have all the time in the world to be that super mom I envisioned in my head since I had nothing else taking up my time.  WRONG!

It doesn’t actually work that way.  Whatever it is that is holding you back (more…)

Motivated Monday!

Monday, March 23rd, 2009 by by

So I told you I was reading a book on time management.  Well, it is not only helping me with my time management, but it is motivating me to get more done in the day and to focus on doing some things I keep talking about wanting to do but not actually doing.  A couple of those things are exercising and starting a garden.  Remember how I said I had bought a great work out video and a treadmill and a new swimsuit, well I want to actually wear that swim suit this year.  Today is Monday and I thought what better day to start on my new routine.  (Yes, I know we will see how long this lasts… but I am optimistic.)  I am really working on getting back to goal setting.  I have written down quite a few goals for myself and I want to be able to see some of them happen.

Mission ONE EXERCISE:   I had my hubby take a before picture of me in my swimsuit – no I am not posting it – yesterday so I have a reference and can see my progress.  I am going to see if he can take a new picture once a week for the next 12 weeks.  I have set a goal to work out six days a week and do this 90 percent of the time.  I look at a 90 percent as an A and I like to get A’s so I guess I will see how I do with this.  I got up this morning a little late but I drug myself downstairs and did it.  I can’t say I did the best job at it because I am terribly out of shape.  I am going to try to stick with this and track my progress.  If I have results that are not embarrassing I may post before and after pictures at the end of the 12 weeks, but I am not holding my breath on that.

MISSION TWO GARDEN:  The other thing I am up to this week is attempting to start a garden.  This is not the first time we have tried to start a garden but this time I really want to succeed.  We are planning to do this as a family.  I thought it would be good for the kids and something we could do as a family.  Right now we just have a few things in little planters in the house.  When they sprout then we will move them outside.  We really don’t know what we are doing with this so this may not go exactly as planned but this is our first garden so (more…)

If at first you don’t succeed… try drinking more coffee

Wednesday, January 14th, 2009 by by

Seriously coffee has become my solution for everything.  Some of you may know that I have recently started an online college program.  I have actually gone to college a few different times but never finished so this time I am determined to get through this.  Since I have four kids, homeschool, and run a busy website, you may be wondering how I do it all.  Well the answer to this is….. I don’t!  Although I am really trying to get better at multi-tasking, usually what happens is I juggle.  I think this is how all good mommies get things done!  One day I might get a ton done on JM but fall terribly behind with school work and the next I might get caught up with school but fall behind on JM duties.  I just finally have learned to accept that I can’t do it all, all the time.  It also helps that my husband fills in the gaps.  He does a lot of the mommy duties like cleaning the house and helping with the kids’ homeschool work.   Aren’t I lucky?

The reason I titled my post if at first you don’t succeed is because I have tried many things and failed the first time, the second time, the third time, and then finally got it right by the fourth or fifth time.  So many times I see moms give up on something they want to do because they failed at it the first time or felt like they failed at it.  Instead of persisting and saying I can do it, they say “whelp I tried that and it didn’t work for me.”  Just because something didn’t go well the first time (or the second or the third or even the fourth time) doesn’t mean you aren’t good at it or that your plan won’t work.  Every successful person got to be this way by persisting and trying again.  Most people are just not naturally good at things, and even the ones that are (more…)