Posts Tagged ‘Santa’

Why I killed Santa Claus

Friday, December 30th, 2011 by by

This year, I got asked a few times, ‘Do your kids still believe in Santa?’ and received quite a few shocked looks to my answer. ‘They never believed.’  What? Why are you stealing the magic of Christmas? What about the wonder and joy of the season? What do you have against Santa?

I’m quite fond of Santa. Here’s how I explained it to my kids: he’s a fun figure who has evolved in our cultural and literary history. He embodies generosity toward children and encourages good behavior. He’s like Thomas the Tank Engine and Bob the Builder.

Believe in fairies and dragons and magic. I do with my heart and enjoy suspending reality for a time. Hear the silent bell ring on the polar express and believe. Enjoy the thought of elves making toys and the stories and lessons you can glean from them like we do from Mother Goose rhymes and other fables.

Then, mindful of the phone calls I’d get from parents if they spilled the beans in pre-school, I strongly encouraged them to go along with it. They were in on the secret, but they shouldn’t tell the other children or it would hurt their feelings.

Rob and I are far too logical, and chances were (and have since proven) our kids would be too. So I had a hard time justifying a ‘bait and switch’ for the season. Here’s how the coming out conversation would have gone. (more…)


Am I the Only One?

Wednesday, December 21st, 2011 by by

For the past few years, I have noticed something. It’s probably been this way for years, but I never paid any attention until having kids. At our local (well, 30 min. away) mall, the Santa area is set up right by Victoria’s Secret. Makes me wonder why they feel this is the best place? Sure, the kids see it when they walk by to other places, but am I the only one with boys particularly fascinated with half naked women? A little too fascinated for their ages – but maybe they are different?? I don’t know since I haven’t noticed it with other children before. Anyway, I guess I wonder if I am the only one who finds this odd? I would think they would want the Santa closer to more kid related stores or the kid’s play area. I have a few theories though.

1) Having it near VS keeps men from grumbling too much when the kids want to go. I mean, the line today was SOOOO long, so what better displays to look at, right?

2) The moms who stand in line for as long as they did today may look over and decide they should treat themselves to something nice, since they just dealt with mad chaos for who knows how long?

3) A female decided on the location to show men what they *should* buy their wives.

The husband has his theory, which makes perfect sense, about how putting Santa near the stores geared towards adults is simply better. The kids are going to want to see Santa wherever he may be, so putting it near these types of stores is just smarter. Period. Makes sense, so now I am changing my question to, “Am I the only one who has children that are overly fascinated with a 1/2 naked female???” You should see them at the beach! (They have yet to see Santa at the Mall though – not because of this, but because I am too cheap to pay for the picture.)

Paper Plate Santa Claus Mask

Wednesday, December 14th, 2011 by by


  • paper plate
  • Elmer’s white “Faux Fur” (available at Walmart)
  • red construction paper
  • scissors
  • glue
  • Popsicle stick
  • clear plastic tape

Instructions: (more…)

Keeping the dream alive

Saturday, December 3rd, 2011 by by

I’m speaking, of course, about the magical fantasy that is on every child’s mind at this time of the year – Santa Claus – and what parents have to do to keep that dream alive.

I got my son to write a letter to Santa Claus with me. Well…I wrote, and he dictated. We wrote about what his interests are and how hard he has tried at school this year, and he asked Santa Claus in particular for a big aeroplane, a big rocket, a big monkey, a big helicopter, and an In The Night Garden toy. He posted it in the letter box himself.

Incidentally, up to now we’ve always had a reply from Lapland, free of charge – all you have to write on the envelope is “Santa Claus. North Pole.” And if you want a response guaranteed, a friend of mine offers a solution for that – Santa’s Letter Box.

I went to finish off buying his main presents yesterday – my aunt and I had already obtained a few, fortunately including a big aeroplane and a big rocket. Being out of work at the moment, things are tight, and I have had to juggle money left, right, and center. But I know if I don’t continue our tradition and deliver what he’s asked Santa for, he won’t believe any more.

I slogged around various stores trying to get the best deal and trying to find stores where they had what I wanted in stock. It took me the whole time Daniel was at school yesterday. But I know if I don’t deliver, he won’t believe in Santa any more.

Why is it so important to me? I always believed in Santa as a child. I still half-believed when I hit the teenage years, and then as an adult, I have reached the conclusion that Santa does indeed exist – as a spirit, an energy, a value, an archetype, and an inspiration. Us parents and carers may do his dirty work, but I do still believe in Christmas miracles. Christmas is a magical time, and long may that be so…whatever it takes to keep the dream alive.

If you’ve never read the beautiful article, “Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus”, from which I take my cue, make this year the year you do it, and allow yourself to see Christmas through a child’s eyes once more. Christmas magic is more important than ever in the chaos of economic crisis we all face today.


Lego Camp: Day 3

Friday, July 15th, 2011 by by
photo from here

“That kid with the blue t-shirt in Lego Camp today was being disrespectful and talking when the teacher was talking.”

“What did you think of that?”

“I’m worried that the blue-shirt kid won’t get Christmas presents, because Santa sees everything and the blue-shirt kid was doing bad behavior.”

“He still has time to turn it around before Christmas. I bet he’ll do okay. I don’t think you need to worry about him.”

“He should be real careful.”

Why I don’t do Santa and other fictional characters.

Wednesday, December 15th, 2010 by by

That’s right.  I said it.  We don’t do Santa at our house – as in, no gifts under the tree “from” Santa, no milk and cookies left on a plate, no trip to the mall to sit on Santa’s knee, and no trying to explain how big fat Santa can fit down a chimney that we don’t even have.  We just don’t do Santa.

Now, that’s not to say that I go out of my way to explain to my 5 year old that Santa is not real.  I certainly don’t want him to go to school and tell his friends “my mom said Santa isn’t real” and have to explain that one.  We just don’t talk about Santa.  At all.  We talk about Christmas, for sure, and also what presents we’ll be getting and what presents the kids really want.  I enjoy Christmas and love seeing the how excited the kids get on Christmas morning when it’s time to open presents, but I just don’t think filling their heads with stories (lies) about how Santa flies all over the globe on Christmas Eve has any bearing on what Christmas is supposed to be about.
I’m sure part of my beef with Santa is that I didn’t grow up believing in him.  I remember being 3 years old and my grandfather calling my cousins on Christmas Even pretending to be him. Neither Philip nor I talked to him, and we knew all along that it was our grandfather.  Also, from as far back as I can remember, I was taught the real reason we celebrate Christmas, and I want to pass that on to my children.  I also never wanted my kids to wonder what else I was telling them that might not be true.  There have been years when Christmas was bleak, and there was just no money for the gifts that they really wanted.  I never want to see my kids disappointed that all-knowing, all-seeing, can make reindeer fly, super Santa didn’t come through for them when they had been just as good as the next kid whose parents were better off than we were.
Santa just does not work for our family.  If it works for you, then great.  Your kid, your family, not my business.

How to cure an almost 4 year old’s temper tantrum

Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009 by by

So, Ryan is sick and pitiful, thus making it impossible for him to act like a human boy. For one thing, I can’t call him Ryan, but only “sweet angel baby” until told otherwise. His temper (not fever) is currently off the charts.

We were painting ornaments to give people the other night when Ryan starts screaming at his friend for accidentally bumping his paint tray. No mess was made and the tray barely moved, but Ryan felt this still required screaming until his friend was crying, I was yelling, and he was almost purple in the face. We calmed everything down and (more…)


Letters to Santa: Calculator Required

Sunday, December 20th, 2009 by by

How to Meet a Mall Santa by Violet Grace

Wednesday, December 16th, 2009 by by

How to Meet a Mall Santa 101: By Violet Grace

1. Wear a pretty outfit, you’re a diva after all right?

2. When mommy tries to put you down (more…)

Santa is scary? Is this genetics?

Monday, November 30th, 2009 by by

I noticed on Friday, while at our local mall, that Santa was due to arrive on Saturday at 1pm.  I decided it’d be something fun for Gaby, so naturally I told her about it, and she WAS excited.  I couldn’t wait! She spent the rest of Friday – and Saturday morning, telling anyone who would listen “I’m seeing Santa at the Palms”, “Santa is coming tomorrow/today”, “I love Santa” – she even spent 10 minutes, explaining to Fluffy, that she (ie the cat) had to be a good girl, or she couldn’t go to visit Santa at the Palms, it was about as adorable as it gets!

Saturday, midday – we arrive at the mall.  We line up in the line to see Santa – and are THIRD from the front.  An hour after we lined up, we finally had word that Santa was on his way – that he was outside the mall, getting out of his (more…)