Posts Tagged ‘second child’

Lazy or Smart???

Thursday, October 13th, 2011 by by

When Troy was younger, I made sure he did things on his own. Some we taught him, others he figured out on his own, BUT he was fairly independent as a toddler. I remember being somewhere and a man stepped in to try to help Troy with his jacket (because apparently I was totally ignoring him), and Troy said, “No thanks, I can do it.” The man was amazed, because Troy was maybe 3. This was one of those things Troy was determined to do alone, and he learned quickly.

Now, fast forward to Will. The problem we are facing now is that we always seem to be in a rush to get here or there, so I am always doing everything for him – getting him dressed, putting on his shoes and socks, helping him with his jacket… Now that I try to get him to do stuff, he has no clue how. Or does he? Does he not know? Is he lazy? Or is he so smart that he knows I will do it for him? Hmmmmmmmm. I just don’t know.

I am definitely trying to make help him become more independent, but he’s very resistant. So is this a 2nd child thing, or is it something that we have created? I doubt we’ll ever know the answer, since we still rush here there and everywhere, but I know that I need to focus more on helping teach him how to do things on his own. However, watching him try sometimes is painful since he really does seem to not have a clue. I will swear, though, that the little bugger is smart enough to know how to act clueless and incapable when he’s probably thinking, “I have these people wrapped around my little finger and they will do ANYTHING for me.” The sad thing is, he’s right. Sigh. Definitely a baby of the family trait. Not that I would have ever done anything like that…….


A month in – life as a Mommy of two

Saturday, July 31st, 2010 by by

It has now been a month (well 1 month, 2 days to be precise!) since I went from being the Mommy of one little princess to the M0mmy of two, and what a change it has been!!!!!

The biggest thing I have noticed is how hard it can be to try to share out the attention equally when Emersyn NEEDS so much more of my attention than Gaby does simply to survive.  I have found myself telling Gaby numerous times “I’ll do ________ when I’ve fed Emersyn” – then when Emersyn is fed, she pukes on herself, or needs a bath, or needs her nappy changed, and whatever Gaby wanted help with, seems to (unintentionally) get forgotten.  She doesn’t seem to mind, but I don’t want her getting used to me putting off whatever she needs, so I’m making a more concerted effort to carry through with my promises to Gaby, whether it’s getting her a glass of water or taking her to play on her bike.  That said, now that we’re settling into a routine more, I am finding that I’m more able to take time out to do things with Gaby, but I still know there is more that I could be doing! (more…)

Rambling reality

Saturday, May 15th, 2010 by by

Today I got the infant carseat, from my parents house, and got it all set up in the car.

And I cried!

For some reason, seeing that little carseat safely in the car made me realize that, in less than 5 weeks, I am going to be putting a little baby in it… Baby Emersyn will no longer be in my belly, she will be ‘REAL,’ right there for me to cuddle & kiss, to snuggle with & talk to in a silly voice. All those clothes, tidily put away in the set of drawers, will be used. The bassinet in my room will have someone sleeping in it.

Emersyn is going to be here soon, and I am so excited…and I am so terrified. I can’t wait for my life to change. I am scared that my life is going to change. I cannot wait for Gaby to be a big sister. I am not ready for Gaby to be a big sister.

It was never this confusing with Gaby, and I don’t know why this time is different. The confusion isn’t a bad thing, and I’m in no way not looking forward to Emersyn finally being here. My mind is just slightly blown…

4 weeks until… 6 weeks until…

Saturday, May 8th, 2010 by by

In 4 weeks time I will be considered full term.

In 6 weeks time, I will be welcoming Emersyn Lily-May in to the world!

This pregnancy has gone so fast, and I am amazed that I’m already in the ‘final countdown’ stages! Physically, I’m getting a lot more uncomfortable, particularly my ribs – especially when sitting at the computer. I’m finding it a lot harder to get myself dressed in the morning, and sometimes wish I could ask Gaby to help me. Emotionally, I think (more…)


Balance. It’s all about balance.

Saturday, April 24th, 2010 by by

I have felt quite bad lately. I have been purchasing a lot of new clothes for Emersyn – albeit second hand clothing, but new clothing all the same – but I haven’t been buying a heck of a lot for Gaby. I guess it’s because she HAS clothes, and I’m not in the whole pre-baby “oh my god, I am so unprepared” mindset with her. So this week, I made an effort to purchase a few items for Gaby so that she wouldn’t feel left out.

Luckily, it worked! We usually go out on Thursday morning and pick up my various TradeMe (like EBay) auction wins, and Gaby spends time ‘ooing and ahhhing’ over all the baby clothes. You can tell she feels a little sad that there is nothing for her. This week, I gave her a package, and she looked at me in astonishment. “Mommy, this isn’t going to fit Emersyn!”

So I told her, (more…)