I think I may have recently made a really big parenting mistake. It doesn’t seem like there is any turning back now. I’m pretty sure I’ve created a monster. A monster… in my bed.
Posts Tagged ‘sleep issues’
Haeden has never really been a “co-sleeper.” He slept in the bassinet for the first three months and then easily transitioned to the crib. In January, he went from the crib to a twin bed without incidence. I thought for sure there would be a lot of sleepless nights with that change, but he took it all in stride. (more…)
If I don’t get sleep soon, I may do something crazy, like set my house on fire.
You do not consider being up on and off all night as part of life with a 2 year old. At two, the boys let me sleep all night. Belly… Yeah, not so much. We’re up and down with her at night trying to get her to sleep, because she’s constantly waking up. The past few nights, we’ve broken down and put her in bed with us. That doesn’t actually help any, it just keeps both John and I from getting any sort of real sleep.
And now… now, she is not napping, and she is in a foul, foul mood.
If you remember many months ago I was writing out my co-sleeping woes. I had a toddler who slept with me most of the night. I was pregnant and needed space, plus I knew a new baby was going to be bedsharing with us so I wanted to get the toddler into his own bed.
We were able to do this successfully in a very gentle way. I slept next to my son’s bed on the floor for a week. Eventually he stopped waking at night. When he did, he came to our room and let me put him back in his bed. It was a HUGE accomplishment.
He backslid towards the end of my pregnancy. He wanted mama cuddles. I’m sure he knew something big was up. 2 weeks after the baby was born we got things back to normal and he was napping and sleeping in his bed.
Well…. almost back to normal. My well meaning husband started laying next to my son in his bed for him to fall asleep after I gave birth to Everett. We used to sit in a chair in the room, but not lay with him. Our hope was that we could start just laying him in his bed and say “Nite, Nite” then leave. Having hubby lay with him really put us backwards. Eventually I was going to use the “walking chair” method to ease him into falling asleep alone.
In December we drove to North Carolina to visit family. Christmas Day I had bought tickets for my husband to watch a movie, a special gift to get him out of the house and give him some time alone. Unfortunately, Fletcher stayed up later than usual and I was faced with a problem. How to get him to sleep while Everett was awake. Both kids needed me at the same time. Everett was crying without me, even with my Mother-in-law, and Fletcher needed to be put to bed.
Steven laid him in bed and left for the movies but he was still awake. My husband swore he thought he would fall asleep. I laughed because he has never fallen asleep without one of us with him. Then I had a lightbulb moment!
I started talking to Fletcher, from downstairs, through our Summer Sleek and Secure Video Monitor (which I reviewed for this site). I told him to go Nite Nites, go to sleep, that I loved him, etc. He was talking to himself. Then…….. silence. I heard the tell tale deep breathing. He was asleep. I was in another room, downstairs even. It was truly a Christmas Miracle! (more…)
Just a disclaimer to all those who are preggo or have infants–Troy is not the normal so don’t let this scare you at all.
Troy’s sleep has been an issue with me since birth. He was the child that didn’t sleep through the night consistently until age 3. He has always been an early riser–I am talking 4:30/5AM for months (yes, so all of you who complain about not getting to sleep past 7 or 8, I have chuckled), he has had issues with nightmares and even worse, night terrors. He is the lightest sleeper so any noise–even a creak in a floorboard outside his room would wake him. It was so bad that I would isolate myself to one room and not leave until he was awake. He was a short napper–think 30-45 min–as an infant that didn’t improve much even when everyone swore he would get better. “Once he starts crawling, he’ll sleep so much better.” “Once he’s on one nap, he’ll nap for 2 or more hours.” Never happened. He did start napping for about 1 hour 15 min on average when he was about 2.5 but nothing like what other people said would happen. Now, he’s 5 and he’s done with naps. We still make him do quiet time because we both need the break, but he doesn’t sleep usually. Yes, everyone said, “Take away his nap and I bet he’ll sleep in.” Guess what everyone?!?!?! They’re wrong. He’s been getting up earlier than normal since he stopped napping so now he’s sleeping maybe 10 hours a night on a good night and he’s been getting up around 5:30/5:45. Luckily, he’s not allowed out of his room until 7 so it doesn’t affect me too often (unless he starts singing, drops his books or talks to himself). We have done everything people have suggested–a nice quiet bedtime routine, putting him to bed earlier, white noise, avoiding sugar at night…..and it remains the same. I hate worrying about it but I am so afraid that it’s going to affect him at school because I can see him getting really grumpy, tired and just exhausted, but as the saying goes…
You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. Yep, I can do all the things right, but I can’t force my child to actually fall asleep, stay asleep and understand that when you do wake up, you can actually go back to sleep. Maybe one day, I will stop being so frustrated, but for now, I continue to get aggravated. On the positive side, getting him up and ready when he starts Kindergarten next Fall won’t be such a challenge.
Emersyn has always been a relatively good sleeper at night - I’ve not had any particularly hard nights with her, usually she is up & back in bed & asleep within 20-30 minutes. She usually starts with a 5-7 hour sleep, and then is awake every 3 hours..
BUT, the thing is - her 5-7 hour sleep usually starts between 4-6pm - meaning her 3 hour sleeps start between 11pm-1am. This didn’t bother me too much, however the last two nights she’s had a 9 & 10 hour sleep, from 4-6pm! It’s lovely that she’s sleeping so long, but I’d like it way more if it was from say 7-9pm…. so she’d be waking from 5am onward.
So - do I just leave her to it? She’s obviously in this pattern because it works for her - and it is REGULAR - like clockwork.. she’s had maybe one night in about 3-4 weeks when she’s not had the long sleep from late afternoon/early evening… OR do I try & modify her routine so that she is going down a bit later, and therefore (theoretically anyway) sleeping later??? Obviously sleeping later would be great, BUT then I also run the risk of totally screwing up her routine, and having her waking every 30 minutes or something like that.
Really stuck for ideas - if anyone who reads this has a solution or advice, please feel free to leave a comment!!!
If you are blessed with children who actually let themselves sleep, I am sticking my tongue out at you right now. If you have the curse of the early riser, you will know exactly where I am coming from.
This has to be one of the most annoying things to deal with as a parent, because you have absolutely no control over it. Nope, not at all. You can try many things to see if they will work to get your child to sleep in, but sometimes….well, you just have to deal with it and get used to waking up early.
Troy has been an early riser since birth. I think that I can count on one hand how many times he’s slept past 7AM, and that is late for him if that tells you anything. For a very long time he was up between 5 and 5:30AM, and for a short time, 4:30AM (this is when I was pregnant with Will, so you can imagine my joy). He’s now up between 6 and 6:30. I can also say that he has never slept 12 hours either - he’s a 10 hour sleeper normally. Here’s another silly thing about Troy: he’s a very short napper. Maybe once in a while he would take a nice long nap of 2 hours (I know some of you are laughing because your children take 3+ hours), but he usually naps (more…)
I finished reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child this morning and decided to jump right into a plan to help my son’s sleep issues. I actually tried to let him CIO (cry it out) a few times last night, but I was home alone and did not succeed. The maximum amount of time I allowed him to cry last night was 20 minutes before I hit my breaking point. It was not a good night and he ended up being up extra late because he got so worked up.
Tonight, we did our bedtime routine and he was in bed by 6:01 pm. As expected, he protested and I jumped on the computer to keep my mind occupied while my baby cried in the next room. To my surprise, the crying ceased exactly 10 minutes after it started. Ahh, silence. Of course, that was the easy part. He woke up about 8:45 pm for his usual hang out with mama time and we have not gone in to see him. It has been almost 2 agonizing hours of crying so far. I know we are doing this for his own good and putting himself back to sleep on a proper schedule is a skill he needs to learn sooner rather than later but dang it’s hard to refrain myself from going into his room and scooping him up in my arms and holding him tightly. I know we need to do this now. The longer we wait for him to grow out of it (more…)
Thanks to our local library, I now have a copy of “The Sleep Bible” in my hands! A friend highly recommended I read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Marc Weissbluth in hopes that I will find a solution to our sleep issues. Now, to find the time to read all 457 pages as quickly as possible so that I can get started. I’ll be sure to let you all know how things develop, but until then, have any of you read and followed the contents of this book? Any tips and/or tricks?
On another note, I started using Baby Signs with my son yesterday. It’s definitely going to be a learning process for the both of us as I had to remind myself several times yesterday to sign as we went about our day. I’m hoping it doesn’t take me too long to get into the habit of signing without having to remind myself after forgetting to do it most of the day. I can’t expect to be perfect right away, but it would be nice, wouldn’t it? We’re starting with a few signs that I feel are important such as Mommy, Daddy, eat, more, all done and sleep. It’s advised to start slowly so I hope six signs isn’t overdoing it.
Now is the time to be patient and persistent. Changes and developments are not going to happen overnight. In fact, it could take several months for my son to produce his first sign and it could take me just as long to read “The Sleep Bible”. Uh, let’s hope not for the latter.
*raises glass* Here’s to improved sleep habits and better communication. Cheers!