Posts Tagged ‘stillbirth’

The impact of words.

Monday, February 7th, 2011 by by

It’s hard watching celebrities lose babies.  Hard, not only because it takes me sad, but because of the media response to it.  I’d never heard of Lily Allen or Amanda Holden before they had their recent stillbirths.  It made me so angry, though, that both Lily’s and Amanda’s losses were termed “miscarriages.”  Now, I’m not saying that stillbirths are “worse” than miscarriages, but it is so very different.  And in the mainstream media, when people consider miscarriages nothing more than a late and bad period (a rant which deserves it’s own post), it doesn’t really help people realize the devastation of going through labor and delivery and holding your baby’s lifeless body, and then having to give that body to someone else to never see again.

Further disturbing to me is this quote from Amanda’s article

She went to West Middlesex Hospital in Isleworth, west London, after the baby stopped moving. It was later stillborn.

Is it so very hard to say he was later stillborn??  Is it so hard to give that baby boy the respect of personhood that he is due?  They didn’t just lose a pregnancy, they lost their baby boy.

It’s hard to read those things, because if they would say that about a celebrity’s baby, what would they say about mine?  Would they rob Cora of her personhood, too, relegating her to an “it”?

I feel so bad for these ladies, and have said prayers for them.  I hope that they get the support and privacy they need.


Needing Donations…get ready crafty people!

Monday, May 17th, 2010 by by

Brandi is an amazing woman.
Her husband, just as amazing.
Together, they have endured the
stillbirths of 3 children, &
one early miscarriage.

They are only 26.
What a tender age to experience
something so devastating.
No one deserves to be dealt
that kind of pain.


I’m banding together w/ some other crafters.
We are going to create an Etsy shop
& sell some yummy things
to help offset the cost of the funeral. (more…)

Tuesday, May 2, 2006: Cora’s birth story

Tuesday, May 4th, 2010 by by

I woke up at 6:30 to shower before heading to the hospital.  I ate very little, I was feeling very sick, which is really not all that abnormal for me while pregnant.  But I think that the nerves were accentuating it.

On our way to the hospital we passed a sign that struck us both as funny.  It was in front of one of the student apartment complexes.  At BYU-Idaho when you register for classes you agree to an honor code of conduct and one of the things you agree to is to obey the law of chastity.  Anyway, it was a sign that said “seatbelt law enforced” and someone had crossed out the “seat” part and painted “chastity” over it so it read “chastity belt law enforced.”  I couldn’t help but laugh.  I wish I’d gotten a picture.

But as we drove down the hill and turned toward the hospital I felt like steel bands were wrapping around me tighter and tighter, squeezing the breath out of me.

As we walked up to the desk in L&D, the nurse there was holding a newborn baby.  I think I was still mostly in shock, completely numb.  She asked how she could help me and I replied that I was there to be induced at 7:30.  As she (more…)

Monday, May 1, 2006

Sunday, May 2nd, 2010 by by

Four years ago today…

…was probably the most traumatic day of my life.

I woke up at nearly 11am, having slept like a rock all night. Matt was already up and showered, and he was just letting me sleep. I asked him what time it was and thought, “wow, I must have been tired!” At that point, it didn’t occur to me that I probably didn’t wake up because there was nothing to wake me up – no kicks in the ribs or anything. At that point, I was still blissfully unaware.

I called my sister to wish her happy birthday and tell her I wasn’t in labor. I was a bit disappointed. The moment she had found out (more…)


Saturday, April 29, 2006

Friday, April 30th, 2010 by by

I woke up Saturday morning feeling fabulous. I seriously felt better than I had since becoming pregnant. I spent some time in the afternoon sitting outside on a blanket reading, just enjoying the weather. It had been a long winter, and having warm, dry weather was wonderful.

My upstairs neighbor’s mother had come to visit her. Her mother was a labor and delivery nurse, and when I told her that I felt so good, she told me she’d expect me to go into labor within the next couple of days. I didn’t know if I believed it, but she swore up and down (more…)