Who else is dealing with this with there ASD child. Jay get agressive with his little brother. The other day he scratched his face. He really scratched it hard the other day. Jay wanted pudding and I told him we did not have any. He kept asking and I kept telling him we did not have any. I went to get some cereal instead and I tured my back for a second and he scrached Jonathan's face so hard it was bleeding I got on Jay about it. Then Sheiroky got on me about it. Saying I let him do it and basically let him get away with it. Which is not true. He gets a time out and I let him know its not ok to hit,bite/push/scratch his brother. My problem is sheiroky downs everything I do as punishement. I used to try spanking but I do not do it anymore. I sit on the couch and bear hug him and he hates it. Sheiroky does not like me doing that. He is not getting hurt. He came out one time and told me to stop. I tried telling be condscending me around the kids they are learning not to show me respect but of course he thinks I am wrong. Anyways if any of you have agressive children what do you do when they get agressive?

My children are only aggressive when they are frustrated and its Mainly my daughter who is this way. My son he just screams. It sounds like your son is the same way. He wanted pudding you didnt have it so he took it out on his brother. Is Jay Verbal? I guess is he able to applogize to his brother? How do timeouts work for you? (with jr there is no timeout with out the BEAR hug). Here is a suggestion if he wants something you dont have say we dont have this but you can have this or this instead which would you like? This way you can keep his attention focused on you. Also you and your SO need to be on the same page when it comes to taking care of the children. Also explain to Jay that he hurts his brother when he scratches him and ask him if he likes to be scratched. Sometimes they dont realize they are hurting the other child.

We're dealing with agression too, usually if dd gets in his way while he's stimming, or tries to touch the rows of blocks he sets up on every flat surface. Punishment has done absolutely nothing, so we started trying to teach him to "guide" dd out of the way instead of pushing her down. Sometimes he does it, sometimes he doesn't. If not then we remove the problem; example: putting away the blocks for the rest of the day. The one thing that has helped the most is watching what he eats; red dye #40 and MSG both make him very agressive.