"We cannot choose to be born, and we cannot opt out of death. Birth and death are constants for all people. But we can choose how to live." David D. Ireland, PH. D.
In his book, "Secrets of a Satisfying Life," Dr. David D. Ireland looks closely at statistical evidence that reveals the lifestyle choices of those individuals who consider themselves very happy. Bottom line: the happiest people are those who help others. In the wake of "happy" people, researchers have discovered similar characteristics shared by those who demonstrate consistent satisfaction with their lives. Included is the essential quality of developing a realistic perspective on life. The way in which life is seen and interpreted makes all the difference, so one must continually reevaluate personal perspective to ensure accuracy. While good/bad experiences/events happen to everyone, it is those who learn mastery in achieving a healthy perspective who live most "happily."
Ireland recommends asking the following questions when difficulties arise. 1. Am I responding impulsively? 2. Is this the worst thing that can happen to me? 3. What do I want my future to look like? 4. How can I establish a strategy for happiness as part of the overall solution? The author suggests this rule in response to any difficulty, warning that, "bad news cannot be responded to impulsively...and a levelheaded response will help maintain a positive state of mind." Further, Ireland notes that individuals must not make the mistake of equating positive thinking with happiness. Rather, "habits of happy people are deliberate responses that have successfully proven to meet their personal emotional needs."
The author makes the telling statement that when one looks for the happy man; one will find him not in search of happiness. Instead, the happy man will be found building, writing, educating, growing...in other words, he will be making conscious choices on a moment-by-moment basis to enrich his life and the lives of those around him. Further, Ireland says, "Happiness can and is to be found in the measure of satisfaction one can find in the normal activities of life." Rather than searching for the perfect job, mate, house, vacation, happy people see (and focus upon) the good amidst the flaws and the shortcomings (which flavor part of every aspect of life).
About the Author:
Michele Howe is a book reviewer for Publishers Weekly, FaithfulReader.com, Aspiring Retail and has published over 900 articles/reviews. She works as a manuscript critique editor for the Christian Communicator and writes on women's health issues for the Toledo Free Press, Monroe Journal, CBN.com, SingleMom.com, ParentSuperSite.com, CatholicMom.com, and Radiant among other publications. Howe has also published eight books for women including: Going It Alone: Meeting the Challenges of Being a Single Mom, Prayers for Homeschool Moms, Prayers for New and Expecting Moms, Prayers of Comfort and Strength, Prayers to Nourish a Woman's Heart, Successful Single Moms, and Pilgrim Prayers for Single Mothers