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September 15th, 2008, 03:18 PM
My2miracles My2miracles is offline
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Wow I don't even know how to respond to this thread anymore. It saddens me that we all carry so much pain. How terribly sad.

As far as Lucy's bio dad. I don't say anything bad. She knows he is ill (mentally) and incapable of being there for her - she has seen way too much. As far as the adoptions goes, I've told her that he loves her so much that he is letting DH adopt her. That's true love. Because it's true in a way. He does really love her. I have never told her that he doesn't want to pay child support.

I know someday, she may be sad about it - it's to be expected. But if she spends time with him, she will see him for who he is.

I have a dear friend who was raised by his stepdad. His bio dad hit the road when he was just a baby. He met his bio dad when he was in his mid 30s. After about 6 months of a relationship, he ended his ties with his bio dad. He said to me "I'm so glad my stepdad raised me instead of my bio dad. My mom did the right thing."

In the end for me, I know I did the right thing. I can live with anything else.
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