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My MIL has a super sly way of making her put downs known. When I was talking with her about how we were considering having my tubes tied or DF having a vasectomy, she replied with "I'd have your tubes tied, if you and DF ever break up, you will obviously take the kids with you, DF might want more kids when he starts a new relationship, you will be bringing two kids already into a new relationship...IF you have one". What the heck? What? My kids aren't good enough for her? (Yes DF is the father of both and neither of us have any other children).
Her comments seem to be getting worse, including at family dinners now. She has an issue with me not allowing my daughter in gymnastics, since she is a national gymnastics judge, she naturally believes my daughter should be in it. I don't agree with my daughter beiing in gymnastics at such a young age-and MIL always finds a way to put me down and how ridiculous she thinks I'm being. Example: At DF's family dinner last week, we were sitting around and I was rolling my daughter in a summersault fashion, but she wasn't being flexible with bending her neck, out of noweher MIL goes "she learns how to bend her neck in gymnastics". Then BIL's gf pipes up and asks why isnt she in gymnastics? MIL says "because somebody won't let her". Similar situations arise all the time, even at Thanksgiving dinner!
Then, at dinner, DF was taking about how the economy in Niagara Falls wineries are shutting down. DF's dad said "so go buy the land!"
Without a beat, MIL pitches in "how could they buy the land? They can't even afford their rent!". Okay, how friggin rude is this? First off, our financial situation isn't anyone's business. Secondly, if we couldn't afford our rent, don't ya think we'd be out on the street by now? Ya, we had some financial trouble while waiting for my mat benefits to kick in.
By the end of the night I was fighting back the tears, because I'm sick of our family being the joke of the night. MIL always feels the need to bring back to me the rude comments SIL makes about me behind my back to her, as well as DF's aunt.
I just don't know how to deal with all of this anymore. Any advice?
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