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Your anger is completely valid. Quite frankly, I would have went over and hanked the tv cord out.
First, I'd try to have a heart to heart with him and see if that helps at all.
If it doesn't, then my recommendation would be for YOU to "under-function". When one partner is doing all/most of the work, it's easier for the other partner to slack off. So, in part, he is underperforming because you're overperforming. I'd give up a chore (or two) around the house. When he complains about it, you say, "Well, now that I'm doing a majority of the parenting around here and not getting the help that I have asked for, I will not have the time or energy to do the dishes/make dinner/tidy the living room each night/etc...." I'd probably pick something that would annoy him if it didn't get done; otherwise this strategy would go completely over his head.
PLUS, it really will be easier for you to have the time and energy to be doing most of the parenting if you're not also doing the same amount of chores that you're doing right now.
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