I need so much help!! Pregnant by one night stand
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February 13th, 2010, 01:48 AM
Join Date: Feb 2010
Hi everyone, my name is Ashley and I am 19. I turn 20 on March 27th, 2010. I am a sophomore in college, im studying child life, I plan to get a business degree in it so I can be a Child Life Specialist. I do not have a boyfriend and I'm not much of a partier. In high school I partied a lot but I'm not really like that anymore.
BUT, Jan 16, I went to party with some friends. I wanted to have a good time and be silly, so I started drinking. I met this guy and after a little time went by of us making out and whatever, we had sex, and it wasn't protected.
So the next day I had a hangover and I didn't remember all of what had happened but I could remember the main details.
That party is the first time I had ever met this guy, I don't even know his last name, his age, phone number, nothing! It was a total one night stand that was meant for us to never again have contact.
So my period was due on Jan 30, and my cycles are very regular. But my period didn't come. I waited 6 days to take a pregnancy test. I went to the store and bought of box that had 3 tests in it. I took them at different times in the day, and all came up positive.
I have an amazing family and great friends and I consider myself I good person. Yes, I've obviously made some mistakes, but that is all apart of life. I don't think my mistakes take away from the person I am.
If I had a boyfriend/fiance/husband right now, I would be fine. I have my own place, my own car, my own job, I get an education, and I am financially stable.
BUT, I DON'T have a boyfriend/fiance/husband. The father of my unborn child is a stranger to me! And yes, it is for sure this guy because he is the only guy I have had sex with in about 6 months.
So basically, I need LOTS of help. I have not told anyone I know! I am too scared to tell anyone. I want to get my thoughts and plans in order before I tell anyone.
Abortion is not an option for me. Adoption I could do, but I feel like I am very capable of raising a baby now besides the fact I have no partner.
So what should I do?
Should I even tell the guy I'm pregnant with his baby? And if I do tell him and he wants to be involved, that is great.
But what if he doesn't want to be involved? I would want at least a little bit of his input on it.
For example, I would want to know his family history with diseases and such. You know what I mean? I gotta know.
And besides everything else, what will people think of me? When people start asking who is the dad, what am I supposed to say? Everyone will think so badly of me and I don't want that. I want to be a classy lady and I don't want people saying untrue things about me.
Anyway, if you read all of this, THANK YOU SO MUCH! I'm really scared and confused and I just need to talk! So if you reply thank you dearly!
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