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March 25th, 2010, 05:18 PM
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Your grandad is great! Only two people knew about my pregnancy and subsequent loss... one very dear friend said all the right things except when she said "I just have to tell myself that there was a reason why your baby wasn't meant to make it".

Now I had in fact been telling myself that same very thing to try to move through the grieving process, but I felt like I was the only one allowed to say that...like fine that she thought it, but probably wasn't the right thing to say to me...

Otherwise it's just people (who don't know about my loss) and talk about the timing between this baby and my 2nd child and how well that worked out for me (will be 3 years) and whenever they make comments I can't help but think of the baby I lost.

But of course that's not their fault and I can't even imagine the times I have probably also made light comments and not known someone's history.

But, it's okay to feel hurt.
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