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mrscheriezach July 8th, 2009 08:43 PM

baby shower etiquette, what should i do?
 
when i first found out i was pregnant, a friend of mine offered to throw me a shower. My sister hadnt mentioned anything to me about a shower, and I honestly wasnt sure she was going to. Well at about 5 months my friend offered again, my sister hadnt said anything so i said go for it. So today my sister leaves me a message that says "I really hate baby showers so i was wondering if i could do a co-ed party for you." well the shower that my friend is throwing already has a co ed component to it so 2 showers would be redundant. basically it really has to be one person or the other throwing it. I told my sister my friend was already putting one together. she did not seem upset but who knows. what would you do, should i let my sister do it, or let my friend? :huh: her message kind of hurt my feelings.

Heather22 July 8th, 2009 08:59 PM

Re: baby shower etiquette, what should i do?
 
I'd let your friend do it since your friend seems to be much more excited about throwing it for you. Then let your sister know that she can talk to your friend if she wants to help, but that ultimately, you gave your friend the go-ahead.

Mama2EZ July 8th, 2009 09:23 PM

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I think you should go ahead and let your friend do the shower. I would ask your friend to give your sister a call and see if she wants to help with anything, like decorations or something.

TulipDawn July 9th, 2009 03:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Honu (Post 16509902)
I think you should go ahead and let your friend do the shower. I would ask your friend to give your sister a call and see if she wants to help with anything, like decorations or something.

I agree...

Preggersforthefirsttime July 9th, 2009 04:11 AM

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I would definitely ask your friend if she would include your sister in on the planning. Maybe your sister just assumed she would be the one throwing it for you and thats why she didn't ask you. If there is a problem with her helping your friend out I would just explain to her that she never mentioned it or showed interest in doing it so you assumed she didn't want to. Either way, I hope its a great shower :)!

Snowpeas July 9th, 2009 05:45 AM

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I agree with all of the above.

*Crystal* July 9th, 2009 06:17 AM

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I agree. Let your friend go ahead and do it. Maybe let her know that your sister is interested in helping and give your sister your friend's email or phone number and let them handle it from there.

monica8 July 9th, 2009 06:32 AM

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I would go ahead and let the friend take care of it. Since your sister didn't seem to mind that much. No matter what it's going to be a good time since everyone is going to be talking about the baby. The same thing happened to me the other day... I felt really badly for my sisters, but they didn't speak up sooner, so my aunt starting taking care of stuff.

ThatGirl July 9th, 2009 06:41 AM

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I agree with everyone else.

I'm sorry her message hurt your feelings. Is she the "type" of person who would throw a baby shower for someone else? I know that my friends don't ever look to me for baby or bridal shower planning because I'm just not that kind of girl. I don't know her but maybe her message was just her way of putting her shortcomings out there.

billie1978 July 9th, 2009 07:38 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Honu (Post 16509902)
I think you should go ahead and let your friend do the shower. I would ask your friend to give your sister a call and see if she wants to help with anything, like decorations or something.


:iagree:

fishysticks July 9th, 2009 08:27 AM

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I'd definitely let your friend do it as well, since she offered first.

Jaylas_Mommy July 9th, 2009 10:02 AM

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i agree with all pp posts

MommaDucks July 9th, 2009 10:26 AM

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:ditto:

drewbears July 9th, 2009 12:50 PM

Re: baby shower etiquette, what should i do?
 
Seems like your friend is more willing and on the ball about it to me... maybe suggest your sister help her with it?

mrscheriezach July 9th, 2009 01:10 PM

Re: baby shower etiquette, what should i do?
 
thank you ladies for your thoughtful advice :) i appreciate it. Ill tell my sister and my friend about my sister helping. My sister is just a very non girlie person, she just doesnt coo over babies or weddings, she is kind of an ice queen...(but that is just her, shes always been that way) plus she never wanted my husband and I to get married so sometimes i think she is still upset. thanks ladies!!! :)

SusieQ2 July 9th, 2009 01:53 PM

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Yeah I'd definitely just let your friend do it. It sounds like she's doing it because she wants to and your sister would only be doing it out of obligation which won't be fun for anyone.

natty July 9th, 2009 02:00 PM

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I agree wit the other ladies I would see if your friend could include your sister

*Hayley* July 9th, 2009 03:11 PM

Re: baby shower etiquette, what should i do?
 
let your friend do it, sounds like she would enjoy it more anyway :)

mrscheriezach July 9th, 2009 07:40 PM

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:) :) thanks :) :) i really appreciate it :)

Kierasmom July 9th, 2009 07:51 PM

Re: baby shower etiquette, what should i do?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Heather22 (Post 16509697)
I'd let your friend do it since your friend seems to be much more excited about throwing it for you. Then let your sister know that she can talk to your friend if she wants to help, but that ultimately, you gave your friend the go-ahead.

Ditto.


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