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ChrissySTL January 17th, 2010 08:17 AM

Good Parenting Books?
 
I am headed to the mall a little bit later today to get a couple pair of maternity pants (I am giving in! If I didn't have to work I would be fine with what I have but I only have 1 pair of work pants and that is not going to work for the next 2 1/2 months or so!). I also have a gift card to Borders so I thought it would be worth my while to grab a parenting book for new moms. I want something that will help me in the beginning, like a how to take care of your newborn book or something along those lines. Do any of you recommend any particular books?

frgsonmysox January 17th, 2010 09:25 AM

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Im a huge fan of anything by Dr. Sears~!

Mom at Home January 17th, 2010 09:38 AM

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I was also going to recommend Dr. Sears, but it's also depending on your planned parenting style as his recommendations might not be for everyone (though IMO they should be ;) )

mylene169 January 17th, 2010 09:42 AM

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I'd tend to go more toward Dr. Sears as well... But I think you should pick up a variety of books. Honestly, I had one - What To Expect The First Year - and used it exactly once. I couldn't remember what my LC told me about waking a baby up to nurse and keeping her awake so my mom and I pulled it out. To me, parenting is trial and error and figuring out what works for you and your baby and family. Books only seem to give you one "idea" of "how things should be" and when what's going on for you doesn't fit their idea you get more frustrated.

ChrissySTL January 17th, 2010 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by mylene169 (Post 18682159)
I'd tend to go more toward Dr. Sears as well... But I think you should pick up a variety of books. Honestly, I had one - What To Expect The First Year - and used it exactly once. I couldn't remember what my LC told me about waking a baby up to nurse and keeping her awake so my mom and I pulled it out. To me, parenting is trial and error and figuring out what works for you and your baby and family. Books only seem to give you one "idea" of "how things should be" and when what's going on for you doesn't fit their idea you get more frustrated.

Yeah..I completely hear where you are coming from. I just feel a little lost being a first timer, it would be nice to have some tricks of the trade to try when I get stuck...my fear is a screaming baby that I can't seem to soothe no matter what I try!

mylene169 January 17th, 2010 12:56 PM

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^ I totally understand that too!! :)

Twhylite21 January 17th, 2010 01:23 PM

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I really like the Baby Book by Dr. Sears, it covers milestones, issues with sleeping, breastfeeding/formula feeding, etc.

Mom at Home January 17th, 2010 01:52 PM

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I think reading is great as are message boards etc, however I also wanted to say to trust in yourself, you'll be amazed at what just comes naturally and how you'll some how instinctually know what to do to calm your crying baby (and have some Hyland's Colic tabs on hand too, trust me on this!)

jojobug414 January 17th, 2010 02:04 PM

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I'm currently reading The Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp and I think he has a very interesting theory and techniques for calming colicky babies. It's very highly recommend by people on B&N's website. But I also need to pick up a book or two on baby care in general.

Racine January 17th, 2010 02:16 PM

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I am a HUGE Baby Wise fan. The first book focuses on scheduling and sleep habits. It's a very distinct style and not everyone believes in this method, but all I can say is we've been using it with Aiden since day one and he slept through the night every night starting at 6 weeks, and at a year and a half still takes two-two hour naps a day and sleeps from 7 at night till 8:30 every morning like clockwork.

QueenCrafty January 17th, 2010 02:23 PM

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I read Baby Wise, and liked the basic idea of a schedule, but I still went mostly by instinct and didn't force that schedule on Lily. I will say that she did sleep through the night at 10 weeks and at 2 years still takes 2 hour naps every day. Is it the Baby Wise schedule or is it just because she was an easy baby? I don't know.

I have What to Expect The First Year as more of a reference for medical issues that could come up.

Other than those, JM was my biggest parenting guide. The PR I'm in is super supportive of different parenting styles, and I learned so much from the other ladies offering their advice on a specific issue.

frgsonmysox January 17th, 2010 03:22 PM

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I just want to say, on the subject of Babywise, that the AAP discourages parents from using this method. I won't go into it here, I don't want to start a debate (although if you search on the debate boards you'll find plenty of info there) but if you google about it you'll have a plethora to read on the subject.

lilflower January 17th, 2010 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by frgsonmysox (Post 18685467)
I just want to say, on the subject of Babywise, that the AAP discourages parents from using this method. I won't go into it here, I don't want to start a debate (although if you search on the debate boards you'll find plenty of info there) but if you google about it you'll have a plethora to read on the subject.


Thanks for posting this right before I did Beth. Dr. Sears is a great alternative, and there are also a few others right in the pregnancy and childbirth section of Borders and Barnes & Noble. WTE has one for the first year.

This is what the AAP says about babywise: AAP News article questions Babywise

I also have enjoyed having a copy of

Caring for your baby and young child (birth to age 5) It's 100% supported by The American Academy of Pediatrics.

Here's the link to the debate on it on the Debate Forum:
http://www.justmommies.com/forums/f4...-babywise.html

QueenCrafty January 17th, 2010 07:28 PM

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^^Thank you for posting that article! I never went by the nurse only 3-3.5 hour "rule" in the book. I liked the idea that of eat, then play, then nap that the book suggested. Other than that I nursed on demand even if it meant it she had just eaten an hour before. I do recall being upset when I read further on in the book where the author suggested that PPD didn't exist and it was the mother's fault for being too emotional and not bonding with the baby.

ChrissySTL January 17th, 2010 09:31 PM

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Lots of advice!!! Thanks so much!

ChrissySTL January 18th, 2010 09:13 PM

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I went out today and bought The Baby Sleep Book by Dr. Sears...can't wait to start reading it! Thanks for all your advice. I want to read the Happiest Baby on the Block too, but couldn't find it at the store. I think I might check the library.


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