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tricia_16_ April 9th, 2013 07:15 AM

Postpartum Anger?
Is there such a thing?

I am finding myself getting more and more angry with poor Tucker for just being a baby. I get mad if he wakes up earlier at night than I want him to. Angry if he won't sleep in his bassinet. Angry if he won't drink all of his bottle.

Logically I know he is just a baby! So what if he doesn't want his bottle? He's just a baby!! But in the ment I get SO mad I don't even feel like myself :( I just see red. I have never been an angry person before, and I don't know how to handle it.

Tucker has been waking up more frequently the last two nights (4 month sleep regression) and I am SO mad at him for it, I have been rocking him and saying in my mind, "Please give me the patience to deal with this. Please don't let me lose it."

This is not normal, right?

I talked to DH about it yesterday and he agreed that I am way more angry and irritable since I have had Tucker, and he thinks it's getting worse. Part of me thinks it's just because I am SO tired and don't have any help all day and all night and no way to catch up on sleep, but the other part of me is laying awake in the middle of the night seething because my baby won't sleep. Even after he IS sleeping I can't get back to sleep because I'm so mad.

Has anyone dealt with this before? I need advice.

Rachel April 9th, 2013 09:30 AM

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Sounds more like PPD to me. It can exhibit itself as anger towards your baby. Talk to your doc! ((hugs))

momie2b9-20-11 April 9th, 2013 09:45 AM

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HUGS mama!! I have not had this before but I agree with Rachel, sounds like PPD. I'd for sure talk to your doc. Get some professional help - it'd be best for you.

mccaroline April 9th, 2013 10:04 AM

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I'm also going to say PPD, I went through it with both of my first two and it was the same thing, I was just so angry with them. Please talk to your doctor, you can get help then you'll sleep better and feel better.

irishblessing April 9th, 2013 01:06 PM

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I agree with the ladies above, I would discuss it with your doctor. It is okay to get frustrated with them from time to time of course but it sounds like something more than that.

r&lsmama April 10th, 2013 06:12 AM

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I was also going to say ppd. deffinetly take the time to talk to your dr, it can help.

tricia_16_ April 10th, 2013 06:26 AM

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Thanks ladies! I made an apt for today at 2:30. I'm nervous to talk about it; I don't want the dr to think I'm a bad mom or try to take away the kids or something :(

Rachel April 10th, 2013 07:26 AM

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Originally Posted by tricia_16_ (Post 27273597)
Thanks ladies! I made an apt for today at 2:30. I'm nervous to talk about it; I don't want the dr to think I'm a bad mom or try to take away the kids or something :(

You're definitely not a bad mom. PPD is a nasty *****!

mccaroline April 10th, 2013 10:28 AM

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You're not a bad mom and your doctor won't take away your kids. I know how hard it is to ask for help, but it's the best thing you can do for you and for your kids.

If you want to chat, PM me, I've been through it and sometimes it helps just to know you're not alone in your feelings.

~Rae~ April 10th, 2013 10:47 AM

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Bless your heart. :( You can't help it. It will get better once you see your doctor.
The best thing about this is, you recognize it. You didn't let it spiral out of control.

Dee Darling 3 April 10th, 2013 11:40 AM

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You are not a bad mom. In fact, you are the best mom in the world because you recognized this was a problem and are taking steps to get help before something happens.


momie2b9-20-11 April 10th, 2013 12:34 PM

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You are for sure NOT a bad mom! PPD is a real thing and real every day moms suffer from it. You are doing a wonderful job and wanting to do something about this means you are better then most moms!!

I always feel horrible about admitting this, but I didn't feel real deep love for Kynslee until about 24 hrs after she was born. I hear some moms say that the minute they see their kids they love them unconditionally. I wish I was that way with Kynslee. I knew I loved her but I just didn't really feel it. I didn't have PPD but every mom goes through different things. I'm so glad you are reaching out for help! KUP on what your doc says

Smashley April 10th, 2013 06:57 PM

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I was this way with the twins. It never got to the point that I would do anything, but there were thoughts that went through my mind that I didn't like. Luckily, my friend went through something similar after her first, so I knew that I wasn't crazy (though, I sure felt like I was). I went to the doctor, and she kept tabs on me. I also asked for help as much as I could.

jdt April 10th, 2013 08:07 PM

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I agree with the gals. You're not a bad mom and just you making the appt to go see your dr about this shows that you are a good mom.

DaniB+4 April 10th, 2013 08:46 PM

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PPD. I had it after the twins. The best thing you can do is address it and get treatment :).

Karen+Zoe April 10th, 2013 10:33 PM

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How did it go at the doctors? HUGS

tricia_16_ April 11th, 2013 07:42 AM

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Thanks so much for the support everyone!

I had a nice chat with the doctor, and she was SO understanding and empathetic. She suggested that I see a social worker. She said the social worker would be able to teach me techniques to calm down when I'm angry. She also thinks I am extremely sleep deprived, and said that if she could send me home with a prescription for more sleep she would do that lol She said the social worker would also be able to help me learn how to fall asleep faster and how to get into a deeper sleep when I DO fall asleep so that even if I am being awoken every 1.5 hours by one kid or the other that it would feel like I have slept more.

She thinks I caught it very quickly and said the social worker will keep an eye on me to make sure it doesn't spiral down anymore, and suggested I ask hubby and my close family and friends to keep an eye out for any more mood changes as well because usuallu people on the outside can see it faster than we can.

I'm hoping to get an apt with the social worker asap so I don't have to stress about being home alone and angry with the kids!

Thanks again for the support!!!

momie2b9-20-11 April 11th, 2013 08:49 AM

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Glad the visit with your doctor went well! Hope you are able to get an appointment with a social worker quickly. And, hopefully you find someone who could come in and help you possibly.

mccaroline April 11th, 2013 09:32 AM

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Very happy you went in. I hope you get the next apt quickly and get some good advice. I know how hard it is with kids, but moms really do need to look after themselves too.

navywifey2003 April 11th, 2013 09:33 AM

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I'm glad she was able to recommend something. I hope you feel better soon.

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