When Did I Conceive? How to Calculate Your Conception Date
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June 8th, 2010, 10:59 AM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Nov 2009
EmmaOxx, has anyone helped you with your question?
First of all, congratulations.
The gift of life is a blessing from God.
It sounds to me that the medical professionals are relying on their typical calendar wheel -- which isn't actually very accurate. The first half of your cycle, from period to ovulation, is called the follicular phase. The second half, from ovulation to period again, is the luteal phase. While the luteal phase is almost always around 13-15 days, the follicular phase varies in length from woman to woman, even sometimes by as much as weeks, according to when ovulation takes place in the body.
I would need more information from you (period dates) to get a better idea, but it sounds to me that you ovulated later than the medically prescribed day 14 of the follicular phase (which most women do). This could be why the doctor says you conceived on the 13th, which by your calculation is one day too early to be possible! Also bear in mind that, during your fertile phase in the days leading up to ovulation, your body creates cervical fluid that can keep sperm still living for up to 5 days in order to give sperm the best chance of reaching their goal in the hour or so that the egg is finally in place. Once ovulation has occurred, it is no longer possible to get pregnant until the next cycle.
So... IF the doctor is assuming that 13th November was the day you ovulated, but in fact you did not ovulate until a more typical few days after that, it is highly possible that 1) you were in your fertile phase on 14th November, 2) your body kept the sperm alive, and 3) you ovulated and conceived in the day or several days later.
The medical professional practice of calculating all ovulation at day 14 of the follicular phase is incredibly unhelpful, inaccurate, and results in many more "emergency" c-sections and induced labor than is necessary. Every woman's body is different. Every cycle may be different, too, and it is a rarely blessed woman who can rely on a closely consistent cycle length from one month to the next! Most of us vary at least a day or two, the unluckier varying sometimes even by weeks. This means that a woman who ovulated later would be told that she were due on such-and-such a date, when in actuality she might not be due for another 3 to 10 days after that date!! Do you see how she and her baby could both be in perfect health and time, but the doctors would be pressing an induction on her on the basis that she is 10 days "late"?
I suggest that you do some research on your rights as a mother and a woman. Decide what care is best for you and your baby, and don't be bullied into a procedure that might not be the right thing for you -- whether that is in hospital or at home, with an OBGYN or with a midwife, with an induction or naturally, in water or in the stirrups, with medication or with massage or nothing. You have the rights to say what happens to your body. How comfortable and informed you are with the steps of labor, or how uncomfortable and invaded and confused you feel, can have a great impact on your post-natal physical recovery as well as emotional, the success of natural birth or whether your stress requires unplanned medical intervention, and how you bond with your child. Make an informed decision.
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