Topic: srs/sara
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July 2nd, 2006, 01:56 PM
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sara - try real hard not to let the Dr's "insensitivity" get to you. I thin they all do it to some level becasue they think in terms of success not emotion. When I was pg this last time & they told me I would mc, teh Dr actually told me (trying to encourage a D&C) that if I "had the D&C today, I could be back to TTC in 2 weeks". I wanted to slap him. I didn't want to be TTC - I wanted to be pg - now, and I was....and the concept of having the D&C to TTC sooner was appauling to me. It felt like completely ignoring the fact that I was pg at the moment we are having the conversation...no spotting, no cramping, feeling bloated & nauseated & sore bb's...and here he is already talking about the "next" baby. I am certain he meant no offense - but it was offensive. And he has said a million times how "young" and healthy we are & how we will have a baby if we stick with it - I appreciate his optimism, but there were times it didn't seem to help...and he & his wife I know went through fertility treatments (they are both Dr's & that is why they chose this specialty) - but they never experienced mc - and it is different than infertility. I understand that infertility is it's own suffering, but loosing babies isn't like getting another af when you were hoping for a BFP & I think that unless someone has really been there - they can't understand why we "worry" because it isn't happening to them. Any sane person would have to fight the urge to worry. It is part of how humans operate & although I think worry doesn't help you - it will forever be an obsticle for people like us in future pg's. Heck - women that have no history of problems worry to some degree...why shouldn't we? I think we need to fight those thoughts as much as we can & not give in to the worry - but I can't imagine any woman, much less a woman with a history of loss, goes through any pg without some worries. I am glad they are doing your tests & I hope they find nothing wrong so that you can feel like there is a very good chance the future holds far less heartache than your past has. Of course update us again when you get some results!
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