well its me becky mother to derek and andrew. its been a long time since i've last been on here. forgot my password. but now i made a new one. plus i've been busy with two boys.
update~ derek has delay speech just like andrew does. which is very stressful most days. i blame myself i had speech problems when i was younger and so did my husband drew. but he is seeing early on and the end of the month is when we have a iep to go to to get him set up with early on school and then next year he'll go to the school that andrew goes to now.
he is about thirthy five lbs i believe he is still a shorty. he takes after his father. a picky eater, short, but then people say he looks like me and andrew looks like him but he has my heights weird.
drew and i are doing ok. in august the first weekend his mother was over for the night she started drinking she ended up calling the cops on him for no real reason at all. long story short she told the cop that he pushed me down when he didn't and she told the cops that he pushed me when he knows better. i am bigger then he is and plus he knows what well happen if he EVER hit me. i would leave and take the boys. anyways, they took him, after they took him she had the nerves to ask me if i was going to stay with him. duh i am he didn't do anything wrong. just because your not happy doesn't mean everyone else has to be unhappy. i told her that. ticked me off after he putting her own kid in jail for the night for no reason she had the nerves to ask that. then cry because she couldnt' remember what happened. and she kept crying because of the past. what happened twenty plus years ago with drews dad and her. that same day she was trying to tell me i need to lit go of the pass how my adopted parents treated me and move on. ( my adopted mother bobbie pasta away halloween of last year)
anyways so when i first got up and the morning only had two hours of sleep i took her butt home i didn't have anything to say to her at all. dropped her off. talked to my sister in law on facebook she claims that when his mom walked into the house she had a grin on her face and told them she would do it again. before all that happened we were on our way from taken the kids to the park and she was saying how when she was pregnant with drew she thought he was going to be a girl then she said well you know who that girl is. you. crazy beep.
our neighbor was actually a witness to the whole thing. his father got him a good lawyer they went to court our friend and i wrote a letter to the lawyer and he got those charges dropped, so they only gave him disturbing the peace which is weird since we were home. but he couldn't come home for a month. that was very hard. i didn't eat only maybe once a day and i didn't do anything except make sure the kids got what they needed. we have never been a part never. been together over six years. it has made our relationship stronger thats for sure.
its ever harder when you have two kids that keep wondering where their father is. the day after he got out of jail i found my old cat i had since i was like seven died . i haven't realized it yet. trying not to. but i know he was old and he was getting to his day of passing. its still hard. it was like one thing after another.
we still aren't talking to his mother. after what she did. now we owe his father about two thousand dollars. our neighbor that was there told me we should tell her that if she wants anything to do with us she well help pay his father off.
she is a crazy lady thats for sure. every time she is over here and if she has one drink a rum. which that night she drank a fifth of rum to her self. when drew was outside working his *** off mowing our yard and our neighbors yard. but we had her living with us when we first moved here and she has always tried to break drew and i up. i dont know why. but its not going to happen.
she sees me as her daughter not her daughter IN LAW. that same night she was rubbing my legs i should have called the cops on her for sexual harassment but i wanted to get away from her so i wen to my room.
in the end i am just happy he is now home. it hurts tho because his mother has always told me she would always be there for me and make sure everything works out. well its going to take a very very very very long time for drew to forgive her. she was never really in his life anyways. his father took him and his two brothers away from her because of how crazy she was.
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sorry i am ranting
its just been a long time
all i do is clean house watch the kids and take care of them and make sure everyone is happy. but myself. i actually made a appointment to go to this place called river wood to get help from my depress cause some days are worst then others. i am just tried of always feeling bad about myself. myself don't matter to me.
i've never had the chance to work on myself ever. now i am trying. its even harder when you dont ever get out of the house and all the friend i use to have i dont talk to anymore because they all just used me. because i was very giving i would do anything for friends. drew help me realize what they were doing. i was the one with the husband and buying a house. they weren't . i dont know
but the kids are doing GREAT. Andrew goes to school Monday-Thursday he loves it. i think he has a crush on his teacher tho. lol
i hope you all are doing good. sorry for not being on for so long i missed you all..
becky
oh yea does anyone have any good tips for potty training. yes andrew is still not potty trained its very hard when they don't talk but he does got pee in the toilet. just not the other.