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February 24th, 2011, 01:49 PM
Yes, yet another JM member coming to this board with questions. LOL
For various health reasons my DH and I have decided that we would like to adopt our next child. We have begun to research all the different types and methods of adoption. After much discussion we have decided that the best option for our family is a domestic adoption of a child ranging in age from newborn to 3 years old. We don't care what the gender of the child is but we have also decided that, with two children already, we are not in the place to adopt a highrisk child. So now I have come here with some questions that hopefully some of you can answer for me.
We have discovered that we can go about adopting several ways: through an agency, an adoption attorney, and the foster care system. We are not interested in fostering to adopt but we have a close friend who is a foster parent. She has put us in contact with the case worker (in fact the only case worker in our county) that works with placement. We have been told that adopting through her is cheaper and easier than through an agency. Of course who knows what the wait time will be...KWIM? We were told that the Adoption Attorney's can match us very quickly (like 3-6 months) but it is pretty expensive. One quote we received placed the cost close to $50K. They explained that we would have to pay for advertising and of course the fees to retain the attorney. It seems like with the agencies the birth mother picks you and after you make your profolio you could wait for years to be choosen.
I'm really hoping that someone here can share their experience with me. How did you go about adoption? What are your experiences with Agencys, Adoption Attorneys, and/or the foster care system? Is there a way for the Adopting parent to choose the child or is it usually the birth mother that chooses you?
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