I was hoping to get some ideas for compromising with my DH on a middle name for a boy. Family is very important to us and while we don't want to give our children the first name of a family member, we'd like the middle name to have some significance.
DH wants the middle name to be his middle name, which is his dad's first name. I want the middle name to be my dad's first name. I love my in laws and my father-in-law, but my dad was the only boy and had all girls, so my maiden name will end after my generation and I feel like this is a nice way to honor my family.
I've offered that we could do both middle names (Joseph and Scott) and DH nixed that idea. There for awhile, I searched for a name that somehow combined the two into one, to no avail. My other idea has been to go back several generations on both sides of our family and see if we can find a common name. So far though, no luck.
And here's where it gets
really tricky- if we have a girl, we both agree on the middle name, which is my middle name. It's been a family name passed down from generation to generation and DH and I both love it. And it goes really well with the first name that HE loves and is his favorite (I've warmed up to it quite a lot and honestly can't think of anything better, lol).
So while I like the idea of our hypothetical daughter having my middle name and the hypothetical son having his dad's middle name.... it may not work out that way and it won't actually look like that at first. If we have a boy first, it will just seem like we're naming him after my father-in-law and I don't want to hurt my family (besides, I'm the one going through pregnancy & delivery, right?!).
Suggestions or new ideas?