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May 17th, 2011, 11:24 AM
katiemama katiemama is offline
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Have you read any books on step parenting?

I suggest "step monster" and "step coupling." Great books.

She is not your child and the truth is, you are probably transferring some of your disdain for BM onto her. That's totally natural. Not really fair to the kid, but it's natural and there isn't much you can do about it outside of work on yourself and where this is all coming from.

Sadly, there are many couples in your situation - one ex doesn't parent effectively and the other ex has to take the fall out. It sucks and I'm sorry you are dealing with it.

Her mom's lack of boundaries is a real sad situation. Without proper boundaries, kids grow up dependent most of the time. Usually the family WITH boundaries and rules ends up being the bad guy - but those rules are GOOD for kids and teens.
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