[QUOTE=K.A.T;25565772]That's a tough one. I've always had a child in my situation. My daughter is older than his. Sometime it helps me sympathize with her and at other times it makes me dislike her even more because I would never do or say some of the things she does.[/QUOTE]

Same here.

I do think that you will understand her position a bit more to some degree. How could you not?

I think it's great that you have the integrity and maturity to reflect on your own mistakes when trying to sort through your judgements on hers. It's a great step in forgiveness and healing. I hope she keeps it together too for everyones sake. I know I wouldn't be anywhere in my own life if I didn't have forgiveness of the things I have said and done. To extend that to another person is one of the greatest gifts to give for you and O.