How to cope with an unsupportive sister? help
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March 30th, 2012, 10:44 AM
Join Date: Mar 2012
Thank you so much! I think Iím still in shock that my sister let me cry for an hour over the phone as I was telling her how much she was upsetting me, and she has no compassion regarding her actions nor that is I 38 weeks pregnant. She just continued to argue her point, as if that was going to change my mind. I just donít understand how she could be so selfish and make my baby and my delivery all about her.
She prides herself on being a licensed clinical social worker with a master in child development, however her own 2 children are constantly in the principalís office and many neighbors have refused to allow their children to be around them because of their bullying behavior. PS they are only 4 & 7 year old girls. Obviously they get this behavior from my sister and her husband, but she just thinks these parents are attacking her and makes up excuses as to why her childís behavior is acceptable.
My mother thinks she is so desperate to feel validated as a parent or as a knowledgeable mother figure that she is taking it out on me (especially because I donít come to her for advice). And why would I, I donít agree with her, however I donít voice my opinion about her parenting style because I would never want her to feel the way she makes me feel, and they are not my kids. So unless she asks for my opinion I donít give it, and even then, I try to make it about the girls and what they need rather than blame her.
I can't tell you enough how much your response mean to me. It makes me feel so much better. I've been trying to stay positive, but every once in a while her voice flashes in my head and I hear again some of the hurtful things she said. Her tone was so bitter and spiteful; I still can't get over it.
Anyhow, thank you ladies for your support and kind words.
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