New DH is adopting my son.
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May 19th, 2012, 12:19 PM
Join Date: May 2010
Hi! My name is Marlena and my DH is Mitch. We have been together since 2008 and married since 2010. I have a 12 year old son from a previous marriage who had a decent relationship with his bio dad until bio dad re-married and then he just fell off the map. I hear from ex about every 4 months asking how DS is, etc but that is IT. No visiting, nothing. So during all of this time (since 2008) my DH has taught our son how to swim, tie his shoes, ride a bike, etc. Our son refers to DH as his dad, but calls him by his first name. I talked to ex about DH adopting our son and ex was more than fine with it. Said he didn't want to interfere with the relationship that DH and our son have. He went to sign his rights away last Monday and then we have to wait a week to let him recant his decision if he decides. After that DH has to take a physical, papers will be filed, and a homestudy will have to be done where someone comes out and talks to all of us (including DS) to see and make sure DS will have a good relationship. DH says not to sweat it, that it will all go fine. But anytime an agency says they're going to come in and evaluate your personal space and homelife, it's enough to make anyone nervous.
Has anyone had the homestudy done? What do they ask, what will be talked about, etc? We have a fairly large house and DS is completely spoiled and has everything a child would want. He respects DH as an adult and a parent figure, but they have a relationship like buddies and friends. I'm sure my nerves will be so shot leading up to it that I'll spend days on end scrubbing and cleaning everything in sight, so the house will be emmaculate. I guess I just don't like the idea that someone is coming into my home and might be judgemental of our relationship as a family. That they will sit and judge how my DH and son interacts. Any tips on how to not stress? LOL
Mitch and Marlena, proud parents to Devin, Liam, and Micah.
Two precious boys born on October 28th, 2013.
Liam - 6lbs 7oz
Micah - 6lbs 10oz
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