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July 2nd, 2012, 09:43 AM
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I remember Alphie talking about how you should focus on how a child's actions make the other person feel (instead of "You shared. Good job!" try "You shared with Johnny. Look how happy he is.") but I'm not 100% clear on why it is bad to focus on the fact that she made me happy and instead I should focus on why the other person is happy. I guess that is because then my love/praise is not dependent on making me happy? I actually was up at 2 am last night thinking about this stuff!
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