Unconditional Parenting Discussion Thread (5/1-8/31)
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July 9th, 2012, 12:14 PM
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I wouldn't read too much into that. I think it is more important to just constantly radiate approval rather than using it as a coercion tool to control their behavior. Praise is a verbal shorthand for indicating approval but I think your tone, manner, gaze, etc is more important especially for little kids. I think in the beginning of the book he is a little more extreme in his statements because he is trying to get the reader's attention and snap them out of their accustomed way of thinking.
I'm just getting frustrated because I feel like I can't get to where he says what
do, only what not to do. I'm on page 75 so I guess I need to hurry up and get to the chart you found.
I guess I also don't understand why, if I'm supposed to constantly radiate approval, it's so bad to say "Good job" all the time. I need to wrap my head around this. Why is this harder than reading a physics textbook?
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