Frustrated by lack of confidence...
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July 9th, 2012, 07:57 PM
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I had a pain med free labor and can hear what you are saying but I know someone who said I will, I will, and became so rigid that when she didn't after almost a day of the physically exhausting labor process she considered herself a failure (to me she is just as strong and as much of a woman as anyone I know). I completely agree that language is powerful, in fact in the field of therapy there are entire theories based around the idea of altering the words we use in order to improve our overall mental health. However, I do think it is very important to remain open to potential possibilities and options during labor and to remember after the fact that no matter what you wanted or thought would result in the most favorable outcomes, you did exactly what was best for YOU and your baby in that very moment in time.
I totally get what you are saying here, but I think there is a big difference between saying, "I'm going to try, and if I can.." as if they believe they are defective, weak, incapable; They have no faith in their body! as opposed to saying "I believe I CAN do this, and I'm going to give it all I've got!". then after preparing themselves emotionally, mentally and physically for normal natural birth, if something does "go wrong", they are able to accept that they truly DID give it their all and they should be able to rest in that. Ya know what I mean?
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