Kayla's TTC #1 Journal
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September 19th, 2012, 08:01 AM
Learning to walk in faith
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Near the land of cream cheese
Hi ladies! I hope y'all don't mind me starting one of these. I JUST started posting over here in TTC #1, but have been on JM for over a year and haven't started a journal anywhere yet. High time?
So, here's a little about us...
For those who don't know me, I'm Kayla and I've been married to A for just over one year.
He has 5 children from his previous marriage to whom I'm a stepmama.
We have standard two weekends/month with them (plus a holiday schedule) and dh shares legal custody with their mother. They're wonderful kids and I'm thrilled to be able to share in their lives.
The oldest will be 13 next month and the youngest is 3.5 years old.
He and I met online (unexpectedly) we met on an online game of all things and were casual friends for several months before starting to talk on the phone and then deciding to meet up. That was in September-October 2009.
We began to look into the process of moving me down here pretty early on. We officially got engaged in May 2010, and in September 2010 we filed for what's called a class K1 fiance visa - basically, if granted, this visa would allow me to move, marry dh and then file for what's called an adjustment of status. In the mean time, being internationally long distance was *really* hard. Our time together was limited. We visited as often as work schedules and travel costs would allow. When we were together, we made the most of it and when we weren't, we IMed almost constantly and spoke on the phone every day, usually for a few hours. We missed each other terribly. We hated being apart and hated all of the waiting we had to do, waiting without any insight into how close to the top of the pile our petition was, waiting without being able to contact anyone who would actually help us, waiting, waiting, waiting.
In retrospect, I firmly believe that the forced wait time and forced time apart played an important role in our relationship. It forced us to learn how to be effective communicators. It forced us to be appreciative of every second spent together. It forced us to heal from our past relationships and be independent people before fully intertwining our lives with each other. It forced us to talk and talk and talk about anything and everything, about what we both wanted out of life, what we both valued and where we wanted to go together. Communication is something that I feel can always be improved upon, but I look back and see just how valuable all of that time was in our learning curve. I truly attribute a lot of the strength in our relationship to the time apart and the skills it forced us to hone, and am thankful for what was really a blessing in disguise.
Immigration is a long, arduous process. It's fairly linear if you're a legitimate couple, but it is tedious, expensive, frustrating and incredibly unpredictable as far as timelines go. For this reason, we decided early on that we would have a small, civil ceremony to officially marry us shortly after I moved (it has to be within 90 days of entry into the US) and have a larger 'wedding' (renewal of vows would be more accurate, I suppose) later on. The original plan was to have the civil ceremony and the large ceremony on the same days, one year apart. That didn't work out because immigration took too long.
I moved in August 2011, nearly a year after filing, and we were married on September 10, 2011. I filed my next set of paperwork in November 2011 and was finally granted my permanent residency at the beginning of July 2012, and our large ceremony took place on July 20, 2012 in Niagara Falls, Ontario (my family is a lot bigger than dh's
). It was everything we had hoped for.
And our TTC journey begins...
I had been on the BCP since late 2009 and came off of them at the end of the May of this year. I had been reading TCOYF for a few weeks and jumped right into charting. I'm on my 4th cycle charting, and 2nd cycle TTC.
We have always planned to have a couple of children together.
That said, we wanted to wait until I had moved, until we were married and until we had had our large ceremony. Our honeymoon was this month - we went to Riviera Maya and it was so much fun. We had an amazing time.
The plan was to start TTC after this trip.
There were a couple of other things we wanted to fall into place first, but we decided that we were tired of putting our plans on hold on account of outside forces and decided in August that we were ready to move forward (and if that meant I had to drink virgin drinks on our honeymoon, I was okay with that
). So we moved up TTC by a couple of weeks and got a few attempts in - obviously, though, nada. We were disappointed, but had the silver lining of being able to have the honeymoon that we had planned on from the beginning (that is, a drunken one
). The calendar looked like I wouldn't O until we got back from our trip - I've tended to O around CD19 or 20, and with travel added into the mix we figured there was no way I would O before CD17 when we returned home. I had brought a couple of OPKs with me just in case (they don't take up much space, after all!) but didn't really plan to use them.
Well, to our surprise, EWCM showed up early and wouldn't leave. I had 2 negative OPKs earlier in the week, and then got a positive around 6 pm on CD15. They stayed positive until later CD16 when they started to fade and I was having O twinges. Thankfully, we hadn't wasted any time that week
. I hadn't been temping because of the time change, temperature change and the fact that I would be consuming more alcohol than usual. We left the next day on CD17, which is when it looks like the O actually took place (I suppose it could have been late CD16 but for sanity's sake I'll just say CD17).
I had a lack of temp jump when we got home, though, so I was concerned. The ladies on NFP/FAM have looked at the chart and they think that it's likely I did O and the temperature weirdness/very slow build was travel related. The temperatures have steadily climbed, so I'm starting to cautiously believe it. My CM and CP both line up with O having happened, and I took an OPK last night on a whim and it was very much negative. So I suppose I'm 5 DPO today.
I'm also feeling confident because the EWCM this cycle was of the best quality that I've seen since I started charting.
Cycle 2, CD22/5 DPO
Bring it on, TWW.
I guess that's it for now. If you've read all of this, bless you!
I promise not all entries will be this long. Looking forward to getting to know all of you!
Thank you to *Kiliki* for my fabulous siggie!
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