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February 20th, 2013, 07:23 AM
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I'm not sure that it's entirely cut and dry as to whether (or whom) we would tell.

We have a few friends and family members that know what we're going through, so obviously they would know. There are others that we are hiding it from (for drama avoidance) so I doubt we would tell them after the fact either. (For example, a certain strict religious friend who believes that IVF is murder and adultery, therefore we are going to burn for eternity. But that's a story for another day.) If somebody asks, then we usually tell them. (I usually start with the response of "Having another child isn't as easy as just deciding to one day" to the constant questions. Some people drop it, others ask more.)

What we are struggling with is when/if to tell our kid(s) about it. DD obviously doesn't understand anything like that yet, but I think that when she's married and/or TTC I will let her know. Just so that she feels like she can talk to me about it if she has any issues. Also so that she's aware of potential issues. I don't want to scare her while she's young, you know? But I feel like if other people know about it, she and future child(ren) should know about it as well. Before they hear it from somebody else?

I'm picturing having "the talk" with her in a few years... "Mom, where do babies come from?" Well, you see, when a mommy and a daddy love each other very much, they go and see a doctor and take out a second mortgage on their home...
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Me: Autoimmune (Hashimotos and Fibromyalgia), vitamin D and calcium deficiency. Treated with Synthroid, supplements, TCM and acupuncture.

DH: Severe MFI (low counts, low motility, poor morphology and high antibodies), likely caused by poor liver function. Treated with Clomid to increase total counts.

DD: Conceived after 1 year of TTC with progesterone to correct LPD (likely caused by undiagnosed thyroid dysfunction). Born Aug 2009 via c/s after an induction due to pre-e and HELLP.

TTC #2 since Oct10 with an early loss in Aug 2011. Post-wash counts are too low for IUI to be successful, so moving on to IVF/ICSI in May 2014!

IVF/ICSI #1 (May 2014): Estrogen priming and antagonist protocol, including acupuncture and prayer!
17/05/14 - Baseline looks good, start Gonal-F 225iu and Luveris 75iu
28/05/14 - 18 eggs retrieved, 14 mature
29/05/14 - 13 fertilized!!! All are looking great still on day 3, so we're going to blast!
02/06/14 - Transferred one 1BC blast, with 3 other blasts and 3 morulas to watch and freeze
03/06/14 - All embryos have arrested. None to freeze
09/06/14 - Faint BFP at home at 7dp5dt!!!!!
10/06/14 - Beta?
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