Can you teach a spouse/friend to be your Doula?
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March 2nd, 2013, 09:46 AM
Join Date: Jan 2008
Partners and friends can be a huge emotional and physical help, especially if they are very in-tune with you and able to read your ques/needs easily.
The hardest part of them fulfilling the "doula" role, is that they are emotionally involved, so if they are not well educated on normal labor and birth, they may get caught off guard by some aspects and become uncomfortable or nervous. Likewise if something starts to go wrong it can be challenging for them to remain the calming presence you need to not panic and stay focused.
I would highly recommend you have them attend a natural childbirth class such as the Bradley method with you, which is a rather in-depth class and focuses heavily on the "coach", educating and preparing them to be your support person.
Also, prior to the birth have them read the book, The Birth Partner: A Complete Guide to Childbirth for Dads, Doulas, and All Other Labor Companions by Penny Simkin This book it also really nice to have on hand during the labor/birth for easy reference if they need to look up a question/position, etc..
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