Topic: Expectations
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March 26th, 2013, 12:10 PM
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Hmm, yes and no. I don't expect Dominic to help dress himself. If he's not running away from me screaming and kicking I consider myself lucky He does try to help with some aspects (getting shoes on is his favorite, and does put his arm into his coat usually, but the main dressing part he is not into (shirt, diaper, pants, socks etc) and I always make a big deal about it when he is helpful! So you can try a lot of praise/clapping etc when she does help (if you haven't tried that already)

I think honestly it depends on the kid, the situation, and how their behavior is in response to you. For Dominic, I can see the devious look, the smirk, and other behaviors that let me know he is not listening just to challenge me. That isn't okay. I don't expect him to listen to me the first time all the time, I do give him a few warnings but after that he does get a short time out. I don't think your expectations with wanting her to listen to "Don't touch" are too high. That is a safety thing as well as a specific direction. I always thought NO is kind of vague and no wonder they don't always listen. I mean how many times a day to we say NO about well, next to everything lol. But Don't Touch is pretty specific. I find it's best to say their name (gets attention) and then give the direction. So, "Dominic" then wait till they are paying attention "Don't Touch" then you know they heard you... and they should be expected to listen within reason (in my opinion)

I don't really expect him to listen to directions to go get things. If she does fine, if not fine. They are coming up on 2/3 years too so I'm expecting all hell to break loose soon haha
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