Feeling like a bad mom on day one
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April 12th, 2013, 04:13 AM
Join Date: May 2009
Definitely don't feel like a bad mom! Regardless of what anyone says, breastfeeding is hard in the beginning. Even though it is a natural thing, it doesn't come naturally for everyone, especially right at first. There's a learning curve for mama and baby. Also, it is not uncommon for some newborns to have difficulty latching at first who then start latching like champs around 4 weeks or so. The first 4-6 weeks are definitely the hardest, and after that it gets much easier. At that point, breastfeeding really is easier than pumping. And I thing Rachel gave you some good advice if you did want to give it a try. You can also revisit it later if you want once things calm down a bit.
That being said, breastfeeding is not for everyone. You have to do what works for your little one and you. Pumping and feeding breast milk is a great thing to do, and shows that you care enough to do it for her. And formula works, too. The "bad mom" thing to do would be to not feed her, which obviously isn't the case. Cut yourself some slack--these first days/weeks are tough and exhausting and emotional and wonderful and exciting all st the same time. Give yourself some time to get adjusted, and everything will get better.
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