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May 13th, 2013, 10:18 AM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: May 2013
Location: Detroit, Mi
Hey all! This is such a cool site! I'm glad I stumbled upon it!
Just found out yesterday (Mother's Day) that I am a mommy-to-be! My husband and I kind-of planned this in the sense that I stopped BC back in January and we have been unprotected since. We are getting more excited by the day about it!
Basic Breakdown: My husband is Dutch and my mother thinks he is only marrying me for a green card. Definitely NOT the case (obviously). There are much easier ways to obtain a green card then dealing with my crazy(and her crazy)! Lol. With that being said, we have been married since last September but have had much trouble from my Mother and a little bit from my Grandparents. We had a semi-secret marriage that included some friends and my Dad because of all the bad flack we were getting from my mom's side of the family. (My mom threatened to make attempts to deport him, pretty much by any means possible. Needless to say, it was all in vain.) After all, it was OUR wedding. Not theirs. So we did it our way.
We removed ourselves from the family dinners temporarily and took some time for ourselves to reset and re-prioritize. We reintroduced ourselves back into the "circle" just in the past couple of weeks. We have since had mainly positive responses but, if i know my family, there is still a lot of passive aggressive hostility hidden under forced smiles (form some more than others).
Anyways, Not really sure how to break the news to my 84 & 88 YO Grandparents and not-so-enthusiastic mother about said bun-in-the-oven. I think, in time, my mother MIGHT get excited but i know this is a very delicate situation and want to present the news in the most respectful, not super damaging way possible. Our relationship is pretty tarnished but it is evident that she does still want me as her daughter and there are passive signs of forgiveness but it's still pretty touchy. Any words of advice for me? All will be greatly appreciated!
Thanks ladies and the best wishes to you all!
P.S. Sorry for the novel!! Lol Thanks all!
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