father of child making legal threats (long)
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June 20th, 2013, 11:39 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2010
First off, it's VERY hard to take a child away from it's mother. As long as you have a safe place to live and all of the child's needs (clothing, food, ect) are met you have nothing to worry about.
It's very smart of you to consult a lawyer and after your move you should look into getting one on retainer for when the baby is born. You will want to get visitation, support, and everything settled ASAP. Not getting everything done in court will just lead to more headache later on.
Also you need to document everything that goes on between the two of you. Stop talking to him on the phone (or do it as little as possible). Communicate via email, text message, or writing. If he threatens you or the baby in the future be sure to file a police report. A paper trail can only help you in court. You may want to look into your local laws about getting an order of protection. Let everyone around you know what's going on and that he may try to contact them for info about you. Ask them not to respond to him at all or to not share anything about you.
There is no way he can stop you from moving or doing anything you want to do unless he can prove that you are a danger to yourself and to the child. The only way he can prove this is if you are drinking/using drugs while pregnant, not receiving prenatal care, trying to commit suicide, or are involved with any illegal activities.
You should also know that most hospitals have a thing called "silent patient". If you check in as a silent patient they give you a code name. Your real name is not listed anywhere so that no info is given out about you and anyone that doesn't have your code name won't be allowed in to see you or will receive any info about you. That way you don't have to worry about him unexpectedly showing up for your birth.
Good luck and keep us posted!
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